So, you’ve been together with your boyfriend for some time now. He’s someone who knows you inside and out —even more than what you thought you knew about yourself. He’s the best friend you’ve always wanted —someone you can banter with, your partner in crime, but also the one person who drops every ounce of judgment and hears you out when you reveal the worst version of yourself on the bad days.
Never in your life have you met someone who challenges you the way that he does, believes in your potential, and looks out for you when things fall apart. You’re confident that the person who’s been by your side this whole time is your soulmate. So, how do you know if he’s close to popping the big question? Psych2Go shares with you 10 signs he’s planning to wife you in the near future:
1. He’s saving up money.
This is definitely something to watch out for if your boyfriend is usually a big spender. If he seems to be holding off on satisfying his instant gratification and hasn’t mentioned saving up for a vacation, a new car, or anything else as costly, then chances are, he’s secretly putting away his money for a wedding he wants to plan! This is especially something to look out for if there is also a change in his communicative patterns. If your boyfriend is usually direct, but you find that he’s being a little more enigmatic, then he may be planning that special something just for you.
2. He starts saying “we” more often.
His me’s and I’s have lessened in his vocabulary usage. Instead, “we” becomes the focus when he talks to you, whether it be over a trip the two of you are planning or something as simple as tonight’s dinner. Bottom line is that he enjoys and finds it essential to include you. It means he’s always thinking of you.
3. The majority or all of his friends are married.
Friends have a huge impact on one’s life, especially if your boyfriend isn’t particularly close to his family. They’re the people he has learned to rely on and has made many memories with. Even if they live and work towards a different life than what your boyfriend has in mind, the stories they talk about can influence him greatly, especially if they’re close friends who have known him for a long time. If you are someone he includes in his social group on a habitual basis and you often go on double dates or hang out in group gatherings, then there’s a good chance he envisions the two of you seriously being together in the future.
4. Your opinions matter to him.
When your boyfriend sees you as a priority in his life, he will be sure to ask you what you think before making a decision, whether it be over big or small matters in life. He values who you are and wants to show consideration and respect by asking for your opinions instead of assuming and doing what he solely believes is the best for the both of you. When someone decides to take action for the both of you without even asking for your input ahead of time, it’s not actual love, but only seeing you as a convenience.
But when your boyfriend truly cares about you, he will always make the time to hear what you have to say. He won’t be afraid of any clashing perspectives or disagreements, because he’ll be confident that the two of you will be able to work them out. This is especially true if he’s seriously considering to be your husband one day, because in marriage, many decisions have to be made together.
5. He can fully be himself around you.
There’s nothing worse than trying to establish a sense of intimacy only to find that you can’t open up to the person you’re with. If your boyfriend is an emotionally contained person, but you find that he can be vulnerable and honest about painful secrets he’s harbored since early childhood, past wounds, and things that are difficult to talk about in general, then you really hit home for him. It’s easy to take your clothes off and be physically intimate with someone, but to establish emotional intimacy —that’s what adds depth and meaning to a relationship. If you’re someone he can fully be himself around, then there’s a good chance he wants to enhance your relationship by taking it to the very next step.
6. He doesn’t mind your craziness.
Everyone has their quirks, but it’s the way people complement one another with their idiosyncrasies that creates a special bond. You can be the most stubborn person with self-destructive tendencies or someone with intense, vacillating mood swings, but if he’s choosing to stay by your side through the good and the bad, then you have yourself a winner. If the two of you have been together for a while now and he still chooses to be loyal, then there’s a good chance he’s not going anywhere else. When your boyfriend not only tolerates you when you’re at your worst, but is also just as equally (if not, more) good at building you up, then that’s a sure sign he’s in love with you.
7. He believes in your dreams.
Life is good at throwing us curveballs and sometimes, things can get downright depressing that they make it hard to sustain what we’re passionate about. If you find yourself losing sight of the light at the end of the tunnel, but your boyfriend refuses to see you give up just like that, then it shows that despite any obstacles that hinder your progress, he still believes you can make your dreams a reality. If your boyfriend wants to marry you, he wants to make sure that you’re getting everything you’ve ever hoped for in your life first.
That means watching out for you and making sure you’re not settling for convenience. Of course, there are toxic relationships in which people with controlling personalities marry those who have less ambitions and center their lives around their partner’s dreams, but that’s not actual love. If your boyfriend cares about your sense of purpose and what drives you, then he will always believe in your potential to grow.
8. He trusts you.
What often makes or breaks relationships is the element of trust. You can tell that your boyfriend trusts you if he is willing to share with you his belongings, his living space, and his dating history. When someone is heavily considering marrying their partner, they have to ensure that they can trust being able to share not only financial matters or a physical space together, but a life that will sustain the well-being of the both of you.
9. The both of you laugh at the same things.
It’s awful dating someone who doesn’t share the same sense of humor as you. The last person I dated would laugh at things I didn’t find to be funny that it made forming a strong bond an impossible task. Chemistry is important in relationships, and when you and your boyfriend share the same sense of humor, things flow better naturally. It means the two of you will know how to break tension or make up after arguments because you’re in sync with what makes your partner happy. Marriage consists of a lot of work and responsibilities, so if you and your boyfriend laugh at the same things, he’ll definitely keep that in mind, because who doesn’t want a partner they can be silly with for a lifetime?
10. He talks about and includes you in the future.
If your boyfriend plans to propose to you, then there’s nothing he wouldn’t do to be with you every step of the way. He’ll often ask you how you imagine your future and what your plans involve to see if they match up with his ideals and goals. He wants to make sure you’re both operating on the same page. If he’s serious about you, he won’t shy away from these difficult conversations that may involve a lot of compromise, because it means he really wants to make it work between you two. If he’s putting in the effort to do that, then it means he truly cherishes you and while he may be able to imagine his life without you by his side, he knows it would be a miserable choice.
Do you think your boyfriend is going to propose anytime soon? Psych2Go would love to hear your thoughts! Leave a comment down below!
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