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10 Things Narcissists Fear Most

Narcissists like to pretend that they’re all-powerful, all-knowing beings that can never be harmed. But regardless of how they act, there are actually quite a few things that strike fear deep into their hearts. Narcissists are known to be extremely vain and care only about themselves. The world itself revolves around them (or so they think). But just what is a narcissist? In psychology, there is something called “narcissistic personality disorder.” The definition of this disorder is  “A mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultraconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.” It’s that last part of the definition that is the most telling. Deep down, these people are very fragile, with extremely low self-esteem. It seems obvious then, that there are many things that really scare them. Here are just ten of those things:

Relationship Commitment

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Narcissists are often characterized by a failure or inability to pursue lasting, meaningful relationships. The reasons for this are pretty clear. To be in a relationship, you have to let your guard down, and this is something that narcissists are really afraid of. Being in a relationship means that your partner will get to know you, including all of your faults and embarrassments. For narcissists, letting people see these imperfections in their character can seem unthinkable, and even frightening. There is also a phenomenon known as “sexual narcissism” where people (usually men) create this fake idea in their heads that they’re much better at sex than they actually are. Being in a long-term relationship runs the risk of exposing them for not being as great in bed as they think they are, and this can also cause fear.

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Looking Deep Into Their Own Soul

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One of the biggest things about narcissists is that they refuse to examine their own inadequacies and imperfections. Because of this, one of the things that scares them most is something right under their noses – themselves. They like to create this false idea of themselves as superior beings, but some part of them, subconscious or otherwise, knows that this is all a lie. That part of their mind is shielded away from them, but it’s always there. To look into this area of their mind would be to confront everything that is wrong with their personality, and it’s something that narcissists dread more than almost anything else. To be fair, this is something that a lot of people fear, not just narcissists. Really looking at yourself critically can be one of the hardest things to do, and not many people are truly capable of it. But while most people merely find this uncomfortable and unsettling, narcissists find it horrifying and life-shattering.

Insults

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Another thing narcissists really fear is being insulted. Narcissists are characterized by a hypersensitivity to insults, and the mere thought of being verbally abused can be a source of great fear for them. Hypersensitivity means that they experience the “sting” of being insulted much more than the average person. While a normal person might be hurt and saddened by an insult, they’ll probably get over it in a matter of days or even hours. Narcissists on the other hand will feel insults as a crushing blow to their already fragile self-esteem, and they’ll brood and sulk over it for weeks on end. They might even never get over it (depending on the insult), or even plot some kind of revenge to get back at the person who insulted them. Another phenomenon that happens with narcissists is that they sometimes imagine insults where there are none. These people are so insecure and paranoid that their minds will actually create insults when someone might just be making innocent comments about them. This level of paranoia shows how much narcissists truly fear being insulted.

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Shame

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Another thing that narcissists really fear is shame. They really value their place in society, and they like to think that people hold them in high regard. But it’s an interesting point to make that narcissists fear shame, not guilt. Guilt would imply that they feel bad about hurting someone’s feelings, or doing the wrong thing. It’s widely accepted that true narcissists are incapable of feeling these emotions, because they find it impossible to put themselves in other people’s shoes. Shame is much more daunting to narcissists, because this implies them being singled out by their community or friends and given a lower status. People who are shamed are sometimes shunned or even exiled from a society. Since narcissists value their pride and their standing in society so dearly, tasting the bitter feeling of shame and a wounded ego can be one of the most dreaded experiences for them.

Lack Of Admiration From Others

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Narcissists feed heavily on the admiration of others. Without other people, they are nothing. That’s why one of the biggest fears for narcissists is the complete lack of admiration from others. This is not quite as feared as being shamed by others, but it’s very close. Some people don’t mind feeling like they’re invisible. They’re totally okay with walking down the hallways or the street with no one paying them any attention. But for narcissists, even the thought of this happening is like a nightmare to them. It’s that feeling of total irrelevance and unimportance that frightens narcissists so much. Because of this, they will often try very hard to put themselves in important roles (imagined or otherwise) in society, in order to avoid this much-feared fate. Admiration from others is the source of a narcissist’s power in their mind, and without it they are nothing. It’s this lack of power that frightens narcissists so much.

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Getting Called Out On Their Lies

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Narcissists are famous for lying or exaggerating certain things to make themselves appear more important or impressive. They also do this to make themselves feel better about their own standing in society. So it’s only logical that one of narcissists’ greatest fears is having those lies and exaggerations exposed. It’s not just that getting called out would bring them shame, or show them as less than what they are – it’s the fact that it reveals to the world how weak and insecure they really are. It brings their whole fake world crashing down around them, and as already stated, narcissists think the world revolves around them. And while they are spinning their lies and exaggerations about their own accomplishments, part of them knows deep down that they’re stretching the truth. And from the minute they start telling these lies, they become incredibly paranoid about the fact that someone might one day uncover them.

Not Being In Important Positions

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Another major fear of narcissists is that they aren’t important. One of the key characteristics of narcissists is that they relentlessly pursue positions of power and influence. That’s why so many tyrants and leaders were (and are) narcissists. But you can see these characteristics all the way down to the high school level, where narcissists can be seen coldly pursuing an election campaign for class president. But it’s more than just a popularity contest for narcissists. It’s a power contest. And power is incredibly important for these people. Narcissists are also famous for being incredibly competitive. They want to win and be the best, and being the leader or the boss is their ultimate victory. Another interesting characteristic of narcissists is the fact that they seem to want recognition or admiration without any actual accomplishments or achievements. They seem to think they deserve power because they were destined for it. Interestingly, this is very similar to what ancient kings and pharaohs believed; that they were given the right to rule by god, not by personal accomplishment.

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Feeling Remorse

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Another key characteristic of narcissism is the incapacity to feel remorse. It’s not just that they can’t feel remorse, it’s that they actively refuse to show remorse. This fierce rejection of the very notion of feeling bad about hurting others is indicative of a very deep fear. It’s a total denial of remorse. And why do they fear remorse so much? It’s simple. To them, remorse is a characteristic of weakness. Remorse, to them, shows vulnerability and emotional frailty. And to feel remorse is to open yourself up to that weakness. Remorse is also in its basest form the acceptance that you have made a mistake. And for proud and haughty individuals such as narcissists, this can be unthinkable. More than that – it can be a major source of fear. Remorse is also a way of apologizing, and this is also unthinkable for self-aggrandizing people with narcissistic traits.

Feeling Gratitude

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Another feeling that these people reject and fear is gratitude. Gratitude, like remorse, is another emotion that is perceived as a sign of weakness by people who are narcissistic. To these people, gratitude is in a sense giving other people power over yourself. It’s the acceptance that you owe something to someone. It also forces you to come to terms with the fact that you might have needed someone else’s help. To narcissistic people, they think of themselves as these all-powerful beings that rise far above others in superiority. The acceptance that someone else did something valuable for them brings them crashing back down to earth. The notion that someone else gave them something they needed not only puts them on the same level as others, it also makes them feel like they’re weaker, or lower down on the social ladder. And this is one of narcissistic people’s greatest fears.

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Death

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Death is something that a lot of people don’t want to address or confront, not just narcissistic personalities. But for narcissists, death can be a huge source of fear. Think about it. Narcissists think of themselves as these all-powerful, all-knowing superior beings. And death is the ultimate destroyer of the even the most powerful people. There is no getting around it. You’re going to die. And this puts narcissists on exactly the same playing field as everyone else. We are all equal, because we’re all mortal. This can be a difficult pill for narcissists to swallow. It means that for all their lies and exaggerations, pursuit of important positions, and general haughty behavior, all will be reduced to nothing when their death finally comes. This means that all of this narcissistic behavior was pointless. Death is a major fear for narcissists, and it’s something they often refuse to even accept.

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37 Comments

  1. I read this article partly because I wanted to know in a more detailed way what the news are talikng about when they are referring to someone as a narcissist.
    I was reminded that this is an actual disorder with serious implications for the person and people close to them. In my social circles “being narcissistic” is oft used synonymously with “being vain” or “being selfish”, when it is so much more than just that.
    Even though the above mentioned fears can to a certain extend be obeserved in every person, they seem to inform the actions of a narcissist in a significant way.

  2. I find it so interesting how self esteem plays such a key role in our lives. While sometimes, people with low self esteem can see themselves as worthless, and it can open them up to being depressed, others can become narcissists, and I’ve always wondered what exactly the tipping point is in deciding how this low self esteem affects someone. If it is based on one’s personality, genetics, home environment, friends, or any number of other factors.

    1. You’re right on the money.

      Self esteem is pivotal in determining our emotional and psychological health as adults. And the development of self esteem is rooted in the early emotional environment of children, during the first 5 years or so when their personality is being moulded. To understand this better, read up on childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and attachment theories according to the psychologist Mary Ainsworth. The root of self esteem is dependent on what kind of attachment infants experienced while bonding with their parents/caregivers.

      I’m not sure as to what factors determine which side of the narcissism-depression scale a person will tip towards, but I do know that narcissism is the result of a child/person compensating for the attention/validation that they didn’t receive (enough of) as a child.

    2. No baby is born with low self esteem. A baby is born perfect. My self esteem was eroded by my 18 month older brother as we were growing up. He had to be the centre of attention. Now I know he was always a Narcissist. He targeted me. Bullied me, undermined me, beat me. So it all happened to me in the family inviroment growing up. I worked out the depressions I got roughly every 3 years were the result of this. I always felt sad at the core of me. I went on a journey into me and got to the bottom of it all. No more depressions. After that, I started to love myself. NOBODY can destroy you if you have self esteem. I am a pretty OK person!

  3. I really enjoyed this article. Not only because of the insight on narcissism, which is something that is generally simply looked down upon rather than explored to the fullest, but because it really made me think, and wonder, if I know any narcissists. I’m curious about where/how you got this information. Did you poll people? Analyze the personalities of known historical narcissists? Also, another topic you may want to explore is sociopathy, since it and narcissism are closely tied together.

    1. Hi,

      I didn’t poll anyone, but I researched the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and found that a lot of the symptoms were due to insecurities and fears, such as the need to feel important, inflated reactions to being insulted, inability to feel gratitude, etc. So I guess some of these points were deduced rather than getting them from a first hand source.

      1. Hi. It is my understanding that any source we read as a writer, even if we do not use direct ideas, need to be cited or its considered plagiarism. Online writing is notorious for not giving credit.
        Most good writing is “deduced”, but that doesn’t mean we don’t give credit to the original material we deduced from.
        Fyi, for a help. Not a criticism. Its important if you want to be taken as a seriously as a writer, I think.🐱

  4. This is my first time to read an article that gave so much meaningful insights about narcissism. It not only talks about narcissism as it is, but also sheds some light on what causes it — which is mostly fear. Fear is such an interesting topic as it is an interesting feeling. It is a normal response of the body to certain situations yet a lot of differently mixed emotions can stem from it. This article helped me learn more about fear itself and the behaviors (in this case, a disorder) that it can entail.

    1. No – narcissism is not caused by fear, but by early childhood abuse, specifically, severe emotional neglect. To understand this better, read up on childhood emotional neglect (CEN) and draw the parallels between that and the points described in this article. I’m an adult survivor of CEN and have done extensive research on the topic. I also had higher-than-normal narcissistic tendencies as a child so I’m confident in my opinion.

      Almost everybody felt emotional/psychological fear at one point or another as a child, but narcissism in particular is a lifelong maladaptation to CEN in some people who weren’t able to escape their poor emotional environment as children.

  5. This would explain why my mother, when diagnosed with breast cancer, and was successfully treated, was the rare exception to the norm in terms of appreciating life and the people in it. Instead, she became increasingly narcissistic, and devalued those closest to her. To the point that I actually said this to her, and questioned the validity of any diagnosis at all. She came after me and my kids so hard that we moved across the country, severing ties completely, over 5 years ago. I may never understand this, as it was just one more example of the many ways she has rejected me in my life. However, the final straw, for me, was involving my children in her games. Zero compassion. Beyond like if we were total strangers…like we were pawns…like we were enemies. In fact, I often marvel over how, if we were strangers on the street, she would place more value on us and how we felt about her. I’m not bitter, as she forced me to see her for who she is. Finally, I had to accept that it was her. Not me. In essence, this realization became the catalyst for my independence from her toxic hold on me. A blessing, a gift of clarity that I would otherwise not have had, had she not behaved this way. All my life, she and her mom and sister, would gaslight me and make me question my sanity (they can’t ALL be crazy…right? It MUST be me…). Cutting them off was the best decision I have ever made, as I have complete control over my life now. I’m almost 40, and saving myself and my kids from my own mother is still the most heroic thing i have ever done. Thank you for this rare insight into the mind of a monster. Validation is a thing not often gifted to those who carry the weight of such burdens.

  6. I have said some things I probably shouldn’t have to a narrcasist and I love him and he thinks I don’t respect him or see him as strong and he is awesome in bed and I don’t know what he thinks really or what he has done or what exactly I should do ..about him I know I love him and put him at top priority above all and he is not perfect and neither am I …and i only want him to know I am sorry and I love him and I assumed allot when I should have not and I hurt his feelings and he hurt mine and now what ? I am at a loss because I don’t move on nor give up and in total love with my Eric

  7. I have several thoughts on this article, some positive and some negative. I will start with the negative.

    I was not a fan of the images used for this article. I can’t quite grasp why “dark art” and “psychedelic skulls” etc. are being used for an article about a serious mental disorder. It is not a curse or a scary bedtime story, it is something that real people deal with everyday in the real world, and using images like this makes them seem like monsters. There is already enough negative stigma surrounding mental illness, so this is unnecessary to add on to it. Another thing is that this article needed some more editing. It was difficult to read in a couple spots where there were multiple typing errors or grammatical mistakes. It if possible that I noticed them more that most others would, considering I am also studying to be an English major and grammar is therefore heavily influenced, but it was still frustrating to see so many errors.

    Now, in terms of positive reactions, I genuinely thought the contents of this article were good. It is obvious that they are simplified for a more widespread audience, but I suppose that serves a purpose all on its own. I can’t say that I have encountered someone who has characteristics of a narcissist, but I feel I have a better understanding of the mind of someone who was suffering with narcissistic personality disorder. There is a fine line between being narcissistic and having narcissistic personality disorder, and I believe understanding these fears helps people draw this distinction. I have been studying psychology on my own and in an academic setting for a couple of years, and yet this is the most beneficial article that I have read about the disorder.

    Overall, it was a good article. It needed more editing, should not have used demonizing images, and could have done without some of the oversimplification, but the information was good and helped me understand the psyche of someone with narcissistic personality disorder better. So for that, I commend you.

    1. I totally understand why the dark art is used. I full blown narcissists is a dark soul. These people make a choice to be the way they are. This is not a mental illness that can be controlled with medication or therapy. They know what they are doing is wrong. Theses people are mean and vindictivive. They feel entitled to do whatever to whomever with no regard. As a victim of narcissistic abuse, I couldn’t agree more with the dark images portrayed along with this article. More awareness needs to be brought to light about narcissism and it’s long lasting effects on children and spouses of narcissists.

      1. I agree with Lora, somewhat.

        Narcissism is BOTH a mental disorder and a CHARACTER disorder.

        Concerning the aspect that it is a mental disorder, one needs to understand how the factors that created narcissistic traits in a person (child) during the early years when the personality was being moulded (almost always childhood neglect) rewire the nervous system so as to keep the narcissist in a constant fight or flight mode, as another commentator mentioned.

        Concerning the aspect that it is a character disorder, I agree with Lora that a major reason for the harm that narcissists cause in day to day life is choice. Ask anyone who’s been in close contact with a narcissist for more than 2 years and they’ll confirm that. In my case, when I confronted the narcissistic friend that used to be in my life, she ended our long, drawn-out argument with “I like the way I am and I don’t want to change!”
        Talk about not being able to help these folks!

  8. Great article, it was nice to get a little glimpse into the mind of a narcissist. It seems like I’ve ran into a few narcissist in my day, or maybe I’ve just had to deal with some extremely selfish people. People who are true narcissist seem to have a extreme fear of being seen as weak (obviously), my point being that fear drives us to act out in all kinds of crazy ways. I think narcissist are always in fight or flight mode, they need to be met with a little extra compassion and understanding. With the people I’ve met that had a lot of narcissistic qualities, I felt like they were all trying their hardest to be the best person they could, but they still had that constant fear of being seen as a lesser human being.

  9. This is a great article. I avoid narcissists at all costs when I see them now, I just think they need a check and they don’t deserve attention. Also, I think it shows that many people may not also be full blown narcissists but have some qualities in themselves that need to be worked on. I personally used to suffer from a bit of narcissism and as a result was pretty much cast out of my social group to re-evaluate myself. But I also feel this was my choice too and due to being over empathetic and just a lack in similar interests. I am really grateful now for the opportunity to have re-evaluated myself, it was like a check from God just telling me I needed to humble myself and really let go of certain aspects of my life, people included. And I’m forever learning and growing.
    I think it’s important for us to note that we are not perfect and there’s always someway we can improve our character.

  10. This is an amazing piece of discovery! Narcissism has been a topic on my mind for years and it only ever interested me once I realized that my friend was and still is a narcissist. Its as if this article opened my eyes to the truth as to why my friend behaved the way she did. The “lack of admiration” seems very clear and very accurate due to the fact that my friend could not last one day without texting me, it was sort of annoying but reading this article allows me to understand that its because narcissistic people need that attention. On the “need for attention” part, although this is true, could the real source of this ‘need’ be due to the fact that they aren’t getting enough attention from their family or close ones?
    Overall I fully appreciate this article for the content it provides and for the answers that I now hold. I think the “…all-powerful beings that rise far above others in superiority. The acceptance that someone else did something valuable for them brings them crashing back down to earth” is well said and I look forward to detecting the next narcissist I meet.

  11. This is an amazing piece of discovery! Narcissism has been a topic on my mind for years and it only ever interested me once I realized that my friend was and still is a narcissist. Its as if this article opened my eyes to the truth as to why my friend behaved the way she did. The “lack of admiration” seems very clear and very accurate due to the fact that my friend could not last one day without texting me, it was sort of annoying but reading this article allows me to understand that its because narcissistic people need that attention. On the “need for attention” part, although this is true, could the real source of this ‘need’ be due to the fact that they aren’t getting enough attention from their family or close ones?
    Overall I fully appreciate this article for the content it provides and for the answers that I now hold. I think the “…all-powerful beings that rise far above others in superiority. The acceptance that someone else did something valuable for them brings them crashing back down to earth” is well said and I look forward to detecting the next narcissist I meet.

    1. “On the “need for attention” part, although this is true, could the real source of this ‘need’ be due to the fact that they aren’t getting enough attention from their family or close ones?”

      You’re correct. Narcissism is a life-long (mal)-adaptation to continuous childhood trauma, where the child’s care-givers severely emotionally neglected the child’s emotional/psychological needs, therefore the child (now adult) continues their search for attention/approval/validation from external sources.

  12. The force of this article is rooted in its effective written manner and informative content. In fact, the point-by-point sub aspects are written as to get to the main point all while delighting the reader with pertinent illustrations. Additionally, this article is interesting both for narcissists and non-narcissists alike. In the case of the former, they will without a doubt recognize themselves in some of these signs and perhaps adjust their behavior to a situation. As mentioned previously, it is interesting for non-narcissists given that they will take in new information about this character type, information that is probably crucial in social relations.

  13. This articles contains a lot of good points and from my experiences from my narcissistic sister, mostly explains about it. From the insults my sister doesn’t take them lightly (and you can understand why too). As a sibling I always called out about her lies (about food,who did what, about what she did vs what she actually did) she said that I lied but I didn’t. Although, I didn’t have the evidence back then. Overall, this article gave me more insights and info about narcissism.

  14. This article is really interesting. I’ve heard of narcisstic personality disorder, and studied it briefly, but I didn’t realize just how close related it seems to be to antisocial personality disorder/psychopathy. It makes me wonder about the incidence of the two together. I also couldn’t help but think of Ted Bundy in this, since he’s given as a well known case of narcissism, and I can definitely see how these things apply to him.

    1. Narcissism and anti-social personality disorder are grouped together in the DSM (V). Check out the cluster B group of personality disorders.
      While psychopathy isn’t in that group, it has a number of traits that overlap with narcissism.

  15. A neat article and definitely a gripping one, too.
    But what I don’t understand is treating narcissism like it’s a terrible disease.
    Sure, narcissists are very difficult people, but alas, they are still human.
    Sympathizing would’ve been something interesting to read, or some other point of view.

    Nicely done.

    1. I hope you never find yourself the victim of narcissistic abuse, you would have quite a different take on that. You can’t sympathize with a soul-less person. They have the ability to make changes, they choose to actively not make the changes, it’s not like schizophrenia or bipolar illness.

      1. Lora,
        I agree.

        Kaya, if you ever find yourself on the receiving end of a narcissist’s terrible treatment, God forbid, I guarantee that you’ll feel very differently. Its one thing to understand narcissism intellectually and a completely different thing to have a narcissist in your life.

  16. Hi,

    Really good article; however i feel death seems to be a bit questionable in relation to narcissism. I guess i have the idea that a narcissist wouldn’t fear death because he/she believes they are meant to be alive in the grand scheme of things. Also, at what point do you differentiate being self centered and being truly narcissistic; or are they synonymous? Anyhow, very interesting read; definitely puts things in perspective for someone who is a bit selfish with himself at times.

    Thanks!

    1. Hi,

      Narcissism exists on a continuum, meaning that the narcissism trait is a long band from a low degree to a high one. Everyone can be found at some point of this continuum and emotionally healthy people are located somewhere in the middle (high self esteem, self love, etc). My take is that self centered people are located a little further from the centre of the continuum towards the high-narcissism end of the spectrum, and these people are characterized as being annoyingly full of themselves, while ‘true’ narcissists (as per clinical diagnosis and not just the layman pop psychology use of the term) are located towards the higher end of the spectrum. Clinical narcissism is also life-disruptive or maladaptive (causes major social problems in the narcissist’s life) while self centred people are able to more or less fit in in society.

  17. So much of this only confirms more of what I found out about an ex-friend of mine. His mannerisms, his way of thinking; it just hits every point. Not sure too much on the death part, but everything else is spot on especially the point about being influential or in a position of power. At the time when we were friends he constantly went to me since I was the “leader” of my small group of friends and would want to override any decision making . If he was ever called out on it he would throw the blame elsewhere and make someone else at fault.
    There are some points of the article that I would question. Despite being afraid of these things wouldn’t they try to play it off somehow? Such as going through the act of feeling remorse, shame, and gratitude? Though I guess there are those capable of doing so and others who don’t do so well.
    Another thing is the images don’t fully match with the points given. When I looked at them it didn’t give me a sense of the upcoming point. Other than that great article!

  18. Very interesting analysis. Having managed to have two relationships with men I would definitely say were narcissists, one dangerous and violent. Both had experienced serious abuse from their fathers with no protection from their mothers who both stepped back and let the abuse continue.Both completely took over my life and controlled every aspect. One withdrew emotionally from me and expected me to run everything, work at a better paid job and look after our two children. He had several affairs during our time until I finally realised what was going on. The reason being that. I totally believed his integrity. I was so stupid that when I finally worked it out and confronted him he wouldn’t talk about his affairs but asked to continue just as we were. I did ask what was the benefit to me? He would still be with me……. Lying, cheating and spending his money on someone else instead of us his family. He did leave, buying another house with the money he had saved as he never could tell me how much he earned or how much the mortgage was. He saved over £10,000 whilst we were together.
    The second partner threatened me, to kill my cat, the children’s pets whilst they were at school, waking them up by hammering on their bedroom doors when irrational through alcohol. I got away but three years later he phoned me up at my house saying we had to talk about money. We met again, he was charming and funny and wanted to be friends. This led to the gradual descent once he had persuaded me to move into his larger house. Both my children were at university and despaired of me.
    I did get away, he still says that the huge amount of money I made from selling my house made me leave. I bought a flat 50 miles away. Such illogical thinking? He will not accept that his behaviour had anything to do with my unhappiness, he did everything for me. So why wasn’t I happy? Intimidation, isolation, used, threatened? Why, I knew he didn’t mean it.

    I am wiser now, my children are both happy and successful, as I am. He found out where I live and still phones. I have a number reveal and he sometimes uses his relatives phone as his number is blocked. I refuse to talk to him but he continues saying he still loves me. I have told him to go away yet he still tries to get contact. It is his fix, his effect on my life. I am much stronger now but it is like a curse. If you find you are involved with a narcissist get out fast, don’t waste time like. I did.

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