8 Times Introverts are Misunderstood
As an introvert, do you often feel misunderstood?
Introverts are as well-rounded and layered as any onion out there. It doesn’t define you as a person, but it definitely explains why you act in certain ways. With some people, you can get a hint that they might be a bit introverted. With others, it’s really hard to tell because you don’t see the side of them most of us connote to someone being introverted. Here are some situations where an introvert could feel misunderstood about who they are!
1. When people think you’re shy
Contrary to popular belief, introversion doesn’t equate to being shy. You may be a quiet person, or you may like to spend a lot of time on your own, but that doesn’t mean you are in any way uncomfortable around other people. Confidence doesn’t have to be loud. Quite the opposite, it can take a lot of courage and confidence to be quiet and not feel the need to please others or seek validation by talking.
2. When people think you’re really outgoing
But actually, no, you’re not. You just happen to feel comfortable for whatever reason. Be it in the company of people you trust, because you’ve had a beverage with an effect, or because you feel passionate about something when meeting someone new. Maybe you’re a leader at work? You’re talking loudly and you might find yourself in the center of attention. Then you meet the person a second time or in a different environment and, well, the comment: “You’re a lot quieter than last time” isn’t unusual for you to hear.
3. When people think you’re a bookworm
Just because you like spending a lot of time on your own, doesn’t mean you spend the time reading. Books might not be your thing at all, yet most people assume it is due to your introversion.
4. When people think you’re boring
You have all the “typical” interests the “typical” introvert would have. It doesn’t mean you’re not a joy to be around! You’re witty and smart and act like a crazy person half of the time. People who you don’t let in to see that part of you are just missing out. You tend to share your awesomeness with the people who truly deserve it.
5. When people think you only like the weather when it rains
Sure, you don’t mind a good storm. It gives you the satisfaction of knowing you have a perfectly valid reason to stay inside. But you like going out in the sunshine as much as the next person. You’re introverted, not a vampire.
6. When people think they can run all over you
Because you’re a bit quiet in most situations, people might not consider your determination or stubbornness. You don’t choose to speak all the time if things are going well, and there’s no reason to talk just for the sake of it, but if there’s a moment you don’t agree with something, you will have no issues voicing your opinion. (Also, the pleasure of seeing the surprised face of someone who thinks you don’t know how to even speak is always priceless. Two birds with one stone, I say).
7. When people think you’re unhappy or in a bad mood
You’re just quietly sitting there thinking to yourself or following a conversation your peers are having. You’re not joining in and you’re sporting a frown with an intense look in your eyes as you reflect on what they’re saying… yep, they will definitely ask you if everything is okay. (And they are, you’re just sitting there!)
8. When people think you can’t have an outgoing job
You might prefer something that doesn’t need you to be super outgoing and bubbly all the time because it tends to tire you out, but you know how to put an act on if it’s necessary. You gotta do what you gotta do to perform at work. And if that is casually chatting up potential customers or holding/engaging in meetings, then yes, you will do it. Because introversion doesn’t make you incapable.
Which ones of these do you relate to?
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Edited by Viveca Shearin