Sexual Liberation: What are the Benefits and Costs of Casual Sex?
How rewarding is the involvement of no strings attached sex in comparison to falling in love with someone?
Being the 21 year old gal I currently am, the whole phenomena of letting loose on the dance floor, staying out all night hopping from party to party and potentially landing yourself into a casual sex relationship is all too familiar (not 100% true for me, but I, alongside with all other young twenty year olds, can easily enter this environment of lust and temptation). Casual sex has grown to be a very common pastime and one can easily find it on fling sites, as well as with nearly every other person in the club.
So, what exactly are the pros of costs of living that sexually free lifestyle? Ya know: sleeping with whoever you want, whenever you want. The no emotionally attachment, no obligation to purchase dinner, and no need to give a call or text afterward type of deal.
Pros:
Satisfying Your Sexual Cravings While Remaining Single
Sex is a natural human craving. In a casual sex relationship, one has the satisfaction of pleasing themselves physically, all the while having the freedom to date whomever they choose to, without any feeling of guilt or shame.
It Helps You Realize You’re Not Ready for A Relationship
Those who actively partake in casual sex are normally the ones who aren’t ready to enter a serious, exclusive relationship. Individuals usually enter relationships when they’re fully ready (also known as, getting all that wildness out of their system). Maybe after a stint of casual sex occurrences, you’ll realize you might set out on a search for something more profound.
It Eliminates Regret
I’ve heard this one too many times…those who wed at a young age tend to regret it and that bracket of individuals tend to yield a high divorce rate. What’s one of the leading reasons? Regret that they couldn’t fully embrace their young adulthood because they were tied down– ya know, those opted out nights of being young, wild, free and purely not giving a damn.
Although I classify myself as a wholesome gal, I’ve always been a strong advocate that everyone should allow themselves an opportunity to live that liberating lifestyle AT LEAST once. Some people go on a wild tangent for a few months, while others carry it on for years. Whatever it is, allow yourself to enjoy your youth (but be safe, of course!).
Cons
You Might Feel Cheap and Easy Afterward
Although casual sex may be spontaneously amusing the first few instances, that rush might quickly turn into shame and guilt. Over half of women who have engaged in casual sex express that their morning after feeling was that they felt: “used, easy, cheap and disgusted.”
It’s Dangerous
STDs people…ya’ll know when we’re all in the moment of the “fuck it” mentality, we most likely will not be thinking rationally-aka stop, get in your car and drive to buy a condom at the local drugstore. Many college students utilize the pull out method (a guy takes out his penis right before ejaculating) which is very dangerous for two reasons: pre-cum and STDS!! If you’re partaking in casual sex, please utilize protection: birth control pills, condoms, etc. There are numerous of affordable methods of birth control that you can obtain at your school health center, Planned Parenthood, etc.
There’s No Emotional Fulfillment
Casual sex is meant to be more of a spur of the moment activity that brings temporary exhilaration and sexual release. However, after a while, many might look back and realize it was nothing more than that. Is sex more satisfying with someone you just met a hour ago or someone you have this deep mental connection with?
What is your stance on casual sex? Have you ever partook in it and if so, what’s your advice on maintaining one? If you’ve never participated in one and/or would never, what’s your reasoning?
Xoxo,
Chrissy
http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/men/sowing-wild-oats
http://thechart.blogs.cnn.com/2011/07/28/is-casual-sex-worth-it/
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