Body language reveals what we may not directly express. This is often the case in regards to the way we make eye contact, our standing posture, and how we choose to walk. But, what does body language say in the romance department from the way you and your partner hug each other? Although hugging is such a simple gesture of affection, it acts as a fundamental indication of our human need of touch. Psych2Go shares with you 10 different hugs that say a lot about your relationship:
1. The Protector
This type of hug suggests a sense of security being built. If your partner is the one from behind wrapping their arms around your waist, then it indicates their desire to provide stability for the two of you. Basically, it’s an endearing way of showing you that they want to take care of you.
2. The Backstroke
This hugging style indicates reassurance. The backstroke occurs when two people gently rub each other’s backs. If you and your partner hug in this manner, then it demonstrates that the both of you want to remind each other that you’re there for each other, through the good and bad. This hugging style is all about openness and vulnerability. This is because you can’t see your own back when you’re hugging, so when you’re being touched, it indicates a sense of trust is built.
3. The Pat
This is one of the more less intimate types of hugs. Giving someone a pat suggests friendship. There’s no real effort of demonstrating closeness or any real degree of romance. The pat is used to draw boundaries and let the other person know you only see them as a friend and nothing more. If you find your partner suddenly using this type of hug, then they may feel as though they have stopped growing with you in the relationship. Talk it out with them and let them know about your concerns to figure out what the next step entails.
4. The Slow Dance
This type of hug indicates romance. This is when one person wraps their arms around their partner’s waist, while their partner wraps their arms around their neck. It illustrates what a young high school couple would look like as they slow dance. Usually, people in the initial stage of the relationship choose to hug in this manner when the intensity of feelings and attraction are strong. However, if you find that you and your partner are still hugging like this many years down the road, then you’ve successfully found a way to allow the romance to live and grow!
5. The Reach Around
The reach around suggests a close friendship. It occurs when one individual puts one of their arms around the other person’s shoulder that demonstrates a half-hug. Although the term “half-hug” may be deemed as a weaker form of affection, this isn’t true in this circumstance. The reach around hug is often used when two people consider themselves partners in crime. Just like the pat, it doesn’t suggest romance, but the reach around is a demonstration of a strong friendship being established.
6. The Deadlock
The deadlock is a body-crushing hug when two people hold each other very close and tightly. It almost indicates a fear of letting each other go and can be suffocating. This hug demonstrates deep commitment and not wanting to be apart from one another. If you and your partner use the deadlock, then it means you don’t want each other to go away, in fear that once you release each other from your arms, either one of you will end up leaving. While it is an intense form of communicating one’s strong feelings towards the other person, if you find yourself using this hug more often than not, it’s important to communicate the vulnerabilities you may be feeling. That way, a better form of trust is built between the two of you.
7. The Flying Hug
This type of hug represents passion and lust. It occurs when one partner straddles the other person either while sitting down or “flying” in mid-air. If you and your partner haven’t known each other for that long, then the connection may be based more on the physical component in which you’re lusting after one another. It may be common in the initial stage of the relationship with the sparks and intensity of attraction.
Even if you and your partner don’t always see things eye-to-eye, if you find yourselves using the flying hug, then you allow the passion between you two to cope with those difficulties. While that sounds exciting and fulfilling with instant gratification, it’s important to remember that sparks aren’t enough alone to sustain a long-lasting relationship.
8. The London Bridge
The London Bridge is a hug that occurs when two people hug each other with their upper bodies while keeping their lower part of themselves far apart. This establishes a lot of distance between two people. If you and your partner find that you’re hugging in this manner, then it may indicate a strong disagreement from a recent argument you had or just feeling uncomfortable in general with one another. Although the two of you are hugging, you might only be doing it to be polite, when in reality, you might not actually want anything to do with each other. Ask yourself if you and your partner have grown apart, and whether or not you two can continue to grow together anymore.
9. The Eye-to-Eye
The eye-to-eye hug is about two souls connecting with one another. This occurs when two people make intense eye contact with each other while they hug. If you and your partner use this hug, then it demonstrates a deep soul connection the two of you have established. It means you see each other for who you are and accept one another as a whole. It also indicates that the relationship you have with your partner is genuine.
10. The Rag Doll
The ragdoll is a hug that indicates a one-way relationship, rather than a two-way street. It occurs when one person is hugging the other partner as tightly as possible while that partner is limp like a rag doll. This shows that one person is doing the majority of the work and cares more about the relationship than their partner. It demonstrates a lot of unbalance and an unhealthy relationship. For any relationship to work, two people must be committed to keeping it alive. If you find that your partner is slipping away, and you’re afraid of losing them, please don’t hesitate to bring your concerns to their attention. Because at the end of the day, being loved in return is just as important as giving it.
How do you and your partner choose to hug one another? Leave a comment down below!
Mutz, P. (2017). The Way You Hug Someone Reveals An Enormous Amount About Your Relationship. Retrieved October 29, 2017.