Is there a guy you’ve been crushing on lately that you’re just dying to know if he feels the same way? Are sparks flying between you and a certain someone, but you’re not quite sure if the chemistry is really there or if it’s all in your head? Do you wonder if a long-time pal of yours is starting to see you as more than a friend? Psychology can answer all of these questions and more!
As the study of the human mind and behaviours, it’s all about decoding the messages people are secretly trying to send you through their body language, facial expressions, mannerisms, and tones of voice, and romantic attraction is one of the most popular and most well-researched topics of interest in the field.
With that said, here are 10 subtle but undeniable signs that he really likes you:
1. His body language tells you he likes you
A guy’s body language can be very telling about his feelings towards you, so pay close attention to the way he moves or acts around you. Does he lean in when you talk to him? Does he smile more when you’re around? Does he gesture excitedly when talking to you? Or start fixing his clothes and smoothing his hair as soon as he sees you? All of these are clear, nonverbal signs that he’s interested in you and making an effort to let you know.
2. He finds excuses to touch you
Most men express their affection towards others through physical touch, so it should come as no surprise that guys have a habit of finding excuses to touch those they feel attracted to. Does he consistently initiate physical contact with you and only you? Whether it’s a brief brush of your hands, a playful punch in the shoulder, or a friendly hug whenever you run into each other, these little touches could be his way of subtly telling you he likes you.
3. He introduces you to his friends
It’s very important for a lot of guys that their friends know about who they’re interested in and approves of the girl he’s trying to pursue, so if he asks you to meet all his friends and makes all of you hang out together, this could be the reason why. Having you meet everyone might be his way of trying to figure out how you fit into his life, what you think of his closest friends, and if you two are compatible together.
4. He helps you with errands
When a guy has no problem coming with you to pay bills and walk your dog, grocery shopping with you, and doing your laundry together, it shows that he doesn’t care about what you do as long as you’re together. Volunteering to run errands with you and helping you do everyday tasks is his way of being generous with his time and attention, and showing you that he loves being around you and spending time with you.
5. He shares his interests with you
If a guy likes you, you can expect he’ll share a lot of the things he likes with you. He might excitedly tell you about this new video game coming out, his favourite album from his favourite artist, or which TV shows he’s binging on right now. He might show you memes and random videos he finds funny, or ask you to watch some of his most beloved films.
6. He takes pictures with you
This a lesser know but a trustworthy way of gauging whether or not a guy is interested in you. Does he love to take pictures of you or the two of you together? Does he post about you on his Instagram stories or tweet about little inside jokes between you two? Someone who likes you will love to brag about you to their friends and followers, and proudly share with everyone else that you two are spending time together.
7. He makes plans with you
It’s one thing when you and he happen to catch each other at a party or going to the same movie, but an entirely different thing when he’s the one asking to hang out with you. If he’s the shy type, he might try to get close to you by asking you to study together or help him on a project. He’s eager when you mention something you’re interested in by saying he’d love to go with you or that you two should “definitely do that sometime.”
8. He messages you a lot
If a guy has been texting you and chatting with you a lot, there’s a good chance he’s into you, especially if he’s usually the one who initiates it. Does he greet you good morning or good night? Does he ask how your day went? Does he react to your stories and posts online? Does he eagerly respond to your messages with a thoughtful reply? All of these things show that he wants to stay in constant contact with you and that he’s thinking about you a lot.
9. He asks you plenty of questions
Asking questions is how a lot of us try to get to know other people better, but it’s also a subtle way guys use to show you that they like you. Pay attention to the things he asks you and how he reacts to your answers. Questions that go beyond ordinary small talk – about how you’re doing, what your passions are, and what your life is like – convey an interest in learning more about you.
10. He spends a lot of time with you
Last but certainly not the least, if he loves to be around you and never complains that you’re spending too much time together, then it definitely means he’s romantically interested in you. He will text you a lot, make plans with you on the weekend, and still miss you when he can’t see you. After all, when we first fall in love with someone, we want nothing more than to be alone with them and spend most of our days together.
It can be frustrating when a guy you’re interested in feels the same way, but won’t just come out and admit it! For a lot of men, passionate declarations of love are nowhere near their wheelhouse, so they usually just resort to sending these signals and hoping the girl they like picks up on it. Understanding the opposite gender can be really confusing sometimes, and the beginning of a possible relationship can be tricky to navigate as well. Fortunately for us, psychology is here to help, so be mindful of these tried-and-true signs of attraction and you’ll never have to wonder if your crush likes you back ever again!