10 Signs Your “Friends” Secretly Hate You

(If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your or others’ character. This article was meant to be for educational purposes for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck with others. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.)

Do you have friends that you’ve been feeling like they’re not really “there” for you? You know how some friends are just so difficult to read? They seem like they’re your friend but really, underneath it all, do they really like you?

Hey there! Welcome back to Psych2Go, and in this article, we’re going to talk about 10 signs your “friends” are secretly hating on you. It’s important for all of us to feel like we belong and feel at ease with our friends, and if we don’t, it might be time to reconsider them. We hope at the end of this article, these signs can help you determine how to choose the right friends around you, and hopefully help prepare yourself before the situation gets too big.

 

1. They don’t seem to care when you talk.

When conversing with a friend who potentially hates you, keep in mind their interest level. Do you feel like your friends don’t pay attention to what you say or do? If they seem uninterested in the conversation, it could be a sign that your friends might be annoyed with you or think less of you; and it’s time to re-evaluate your friendship with them and find friends who put the same effort and time as you do in the friendship. When this happens, ask your friends if they’re listening and how they’re feeling. This could help start a conversation about what’s going on and whether you could do anything better to deserve their attention.

2. None of you can agree on anything.

One thing that people often want to do is being able to agree with their friends, or at least have some common ground. Friendships are built on common values, interests, and dislikes. Once in a while, one of them will question the other, but it eventually leads to an amicable conclusion. However, if you find that your friend is starting to doubt things that used to be held in common, there could be some underlying issues; because of overtly disagreeing on everything, whether it’s true or false, is an indication that your friends might not respect or believe in anything you say. If you don’t have anything in common with your friends, it might be hard to get along with them. While being in any form of relationship has its “give and take” dynamics, It’s important to be around friends who share common interests and beliefs in life as you do. 

3. They avoid being seen with you in public.

While it may seem like a conflicting or irrelevant sign, this sign might indicate that your friends are actually disliking you in silence. In public, they may turn their backs on you or act like they don’t recognize you at times. Whereas, good friends are always there for you. They won’t let the ground break their bond- they’ll keep their heads together no matter what happens. So how do we know if our friends care deeply? Try watching closely at how you stick up next to each other when something goes wrong between the both of you.

4. They regularly backstab you.

Your friends should be one of the most important relationships in your life. Nothing breaks the bond between friends like hearing what they have said about you. To think that your favorite person would tell lies and spread negative rumors makes it almost impossible for any good feeling to come back into your lives, even if things were rough beforehand. It’s always preferable to have a few genuine friends who you can count on than a lot of them who are pretentious. Once you have built up a large network of acquaintances, then it’s time to remove the unpleasant ones from your life. 

5. Anything you do irritates them. 

This is irrelevant to hypersensitive individuals when your friends are more prone to get offended only by you. It’s no secret that relationships can be difficult, but the way you interact with your friends may reveal a lot about who they really are. If they snap at any opportunity without reason, get annoyed by your presence, or feeling spiteful towards you in general, then there might be some underlying issues going on here – possibly even hate converting into something more profound and awful than ever. 

6. They attempt to get you into trouble.

When your friends are able to get you into trouble, it can be taken as a sign that they are being dishonest with you. They have the intention of harming you because they are generally not happy with you. A sly bully may do so in various ways, including being engaged in behaviors that make you look pathetic in front of people who would never treat you like this. It is true that a friend who regularly gets you into trouble isn’t really your best, but the worst kind of friend doesn’t care about what happens to you; they’re just looking to make things worse for you. They’ll do anything bad around you stealthily which ultimately implicates you when things go wrong and leave you all alone behind.

7. They are no longer honest with you.

A friend who is not straightforward with you will always come across as a backpedal. If they are not telling you their true feelings, then there might be some form of abuse or ostracizing that is happening in the friendship. A good friend will always tell you the truth because that’s what friends do, and it doesn’t matter if it hurts your feelings or makes you angry. It may be difficult to hear the truth, but it may help you move forward and grow as a person.

8. They’re no longer interested in spending time with you.

This is a bit self-explanatory, but it’s important to include it in this list. Your friends who were once happy to go out with you all the time and now won’t return your texts might be trying to distance themselves from spending time with you. They might be trying to cut ties and disappear slowly without having the nerve to actually do so. 

9. They are unwilling to celebrate your accomplishments.

When you accomplish something big, do your friends congratulate you or make it seem like it’s no big deal? When they ignore or belittle your success, this might be an indication that they’re not happy for you and actually wish that the accomplishment would go unseen.

10. They always try to make you feel dumb.

When your friends are constantly pointing out the simple mistakes that you make, this might be a sign that they are trying to undermine your intelligence because it makes them look better by comparison. They might be afraid of letting you shine for fear of being replaced. When this is done in front of other people, it’s very hurtful. It might mean that they are trying to avoid being associated with you.

Nothing else matters much when someone has genuine love and loyalty within them and for their friends. There is no better friend than the one who can be there when you need them most despite your discrepancies with them. Unfortunately, not all friendships are built to last in this world where people come and go at will- but what’s important are those few souls with whom our hearts connect for eternity. This type of friendship is intended to endure for all time. If you do feel like your friend is feeling negatively this way, then it’s probably time to re-evaluate your friendship and see what you can do to help the situation. Always be sure that the decision you make will better both of you in the long term.

Do you relate to any of the signs discussed in this article? If so, what do you plan to do next? Let us know in the comments below. Also, remember to share this article with those who might benefit from it. Thanks for reading! Until next time!

References

1. Devani, M. 33 Signs That Your Best Friend Hates You Secretly. LoveDevani. https://lovedevani.com/signs-that-your-best-friend-hates-you