10 Signs You’re More Than Just Friends
Have you ever questioned if you and another person might be more than friends? Well sometimes, there can be many signs that subtly tell us of the possibilities. It could be from the emotions we feel to how we behave around them and also the things we do (Givens, 1978). In this article, I will be covering with you some of the signs that you and a friend might be more than just friends.
1. Wanting to Spend More Time with Them
Whether it’s once or twice a week, you find yourself wanting to hang out with them more and the feeling’s mutual. It could be that both of you just genuinely enjoy each other’s company as a friend or perhaps it could be something more. Turns out, it can actually be both. While it is natural for us to want to spend more time with the person we like because it makes both people happy, it could be a sign that they have feelings for each other.
2. Missing Them More Than Usual
So, you guys just hung out a day ago but you already miss them. Although it is usually normal to miss people we haven’t seen in a while, missing a particular person you’ve seen recently is most likely a sign of something more than friendship. With relation to the first point, it also makes you want to see them more. If the other party seems to be in a similar position as you, it could be that they view you as more than a friend. Then again, it is difficult for either party to find out unless one informs the other.
3. Lingering on Your Mind A Lot
Do you find yourself thinking about them a little too much? Or have they told you that they are thinking about you a lot? Unless something memorable has happened between either of you, thinking of each other a lot may probably involve some form of genuine feelings. Additionally, people tend to get the butterflies when they think of someone they adore. So, if you have someone in your mind a lot or vice versa, it’s probably more than a sign of friendship.
4. Getting Butterflies
No, not literal butterflies. Instead, it means to get that nervous feeling when a person is around another person. According to Scherwitz & Helmreich (1973), interpersonal attraction varies from behavior such as eye contact and interactions. If you find yourself behaving slightly differently, it could be that you are attracted to them in some manner. Furthermore, if you notice a friend who appears to have the butterflies around you, they might be viewing you as more than a friend. In the end, it also depends on how either party responds to the situation.
5. Dressing to Impress
Our attention is usually captured when we see something or someone that we perceive as attractive which can be subjective (Koranyi & Rothermund, 2012). This can be a sign of wanting to be more than friends as we are putting in more effort to make ourselves appear more attractive to the other person. However, individual intentions and the situations do vary as well. What’s your reason for wanting to look more attractive? Are both parties mutually attracted?
6. Getting Jealous Easily
What is meant by this is you get jealous easily when you see them with someone else. According to White (1981), jealousy in relationships occur because people perceive the other person as a potential rival that might lead to an involvement with a third person. People may try to downplay their jealousy as they could be trying to hide their true feelings for that “friend”. Thus, jealousy could be a sign that the interested individual(s) wants to be more than just friends.
7. Seeing Them Differently
Instead of seeing them as a good friend, the individual may begin to see the person as something more. The way they feel about them starts to grow as well. Interactions with them and others start to be different. They end up wanting to be more than just friends with them (Deitz, 2020). If the other party receives it with mutual feelings, then it is a sure sign of more than friendship.
8. Feeling Closer to Them
Whether it is having deeper conversations or talking all day, the bond between two individuals ends up growing. Although good friends are close to each other, it can also be a sign that they are close to being more than just good friends. However, it also does depend on how both parties perceive the situation and each response may vary.
9. Flirting with Each Other
Flirting is probably one of the bigger signs of being more than friends. This is because it can be a way of gauging interest to see if the opposite party shares the mutual feelings for them. I mean do normal friends flirt with each other? Maybe. However, if they both share mutual feelings for each other, it might be time to discuss those feelings and maybe take the friendship to the next level.
10. Having Physical Contact
So, what do I mean by this? It depends on what kind of physical contact to be honest. Some friendships have more physical contact than others. However, actions like holding hands, kissing or cuddling, is a pretty big sign of being more than friends. If it’s a pat on the back or a normal hug, it could be just friendly gesture. Then again, who knows? It can be difficult to tell.
What do you think of these signs? Were you able to relate to any of them? Once again, some signs can be pretty clear that the situation has gone beyond friendship. Other signs may be more subtle that require more action or communication. Despite all these signs, it is still better to be honest and communicate your feelings.
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Koranyi, N., & Rothermund, K. (2012). When the grass on the other side of the fence doesn’t matter: Reciprocal romantic interest neutralizes attentional bias towards attractive alternatives. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 48(1), 186-191.
Scherwitz, L., & Helmreich, R. (1973). Interactive effects of eye contact and verbal content on interpersonal attraction in dyads. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 25(1), 6-14.
White, G. (1981). Jealousy and Partner’s Perceived Motives for Attraction to a Rival. Social Psychology Quarterly, 44(1), 24.
Deitz, B. (2020). The Sign That You’re More Than Friends. Bustle. Retrieved 5 March 2020, from https://www.bustle.com/articles/148810-15-signs-youre-more-than-friends.