Catching feelings is the easy part. Perhaps you found yourself falling for your best friend or someone you’ve got to know better over time. People often tell you life is too short to not take a chance. So, you go for it, even if it makes you want to vomit. You step up to the plate and make your feelings known. And to your horror, it doesn’t go the way you hoped it would. You wait for them to tell you that they also feel the same way. But instead, an awkward silence follows before they let you know that they never saw you as anything more than just a friend. Unrequited love is a special kind of hell. But no matter how painful it is, it can still be overcome. Psych2Go shares with you 10 ways to deal with unrequited love:
1. Allow yourself to grieve.
Rejection hurts. Your heart just broke —not literally, but there’s an aching in your chest that you’re experiencing and your whole body feels heavy and worn down. According to a research study led by psychologist Ethan Kross at the University of Michigan, there is evidence that shows emotional pain activates the same part of your brain as physical pain. In other words, the metaphors “broken heart” and “wounded feelings” aren’t exaggerations because they hold truth. Be kind to yourself and allow time to heal you. Don’t pretend like everything is okay or put off your heartbreak as if it’s a chore. Acknowledge that you’re not doing well and probably won’t be for a while. You have to let yourself fully break before you can get better.