5 Common Mistakes That Make People HATE You

Do you have a hard time making friends? Have you ever wondered why some people don’t seem to dislike you right away, even when you’re trying to be nice? Well, guess what? You’re not alone, and there are some simple solutions to make things better!

Imagine this: You meet someone new, and instead of them smiling and feeling excited to know you, they seem distant or even annoyed. Ouch, right? We’ve all been there, and it can leave us feeling sad and confused. But don’t worry! There are a few habits that might be causing this, and we’re here to help you understand and fix them.

Mistake #1: Talking Over People

Why is it wrong: 

We’ve all been so excited to share our own stories that we forget to listen to others. But imagine you’re talking to someone, and you can tell they’re not really listening. How does that make you feel? Ignored, right? That’s a surefire way to make people dislike you. But don’t worry, there’s a simple solution to this. 

What to do instead: 

To make people like you more, try your best to let them finish what they’re saying before you jump in. It shows respect and makes conversations smoother. Make an effort to listen and show interest in what others are saying. Ask questions and give them a chance to speak their minds.

Mistake #2: Talking Only About Yourself

Think back to your last conversations: did you mostly talk about yourself and didn’t ask others about themselves? If you did, then you may be making people feel like you’re not interested in them and find you frustrating to talk to. Let’s fix this! Make an effort to show interest in others. Ask them about their day, their interests, and their feelings. By showing that you care about them, you’ll build stronger connections and make people want to be around you.

Mistake #3: Vulnerability Dropping

Imagine a friend opens up to you and shares something personal and vulnerable. How do you respond? If you immediately make a joke or don’t take them seriously, it can hurt their feelings and make them dislike you. Instead, when someone shares something personal, be supportive and understanding and tell them you’re there for them. It will make them feel valued and make your bond stronger.

Mistake #4: Hurtful Teasing

Do you make jokes or tease people about things that they’re sensitive about? Do you make other people the butt of most of your jokes? Even if you’re just trying to be playful, doing this can hurt and upset others, making them hate you. Respect their boundaries and don’t push them to talk about stuff they don’t want to. By being kind and sensitive to their feelings, you’ll make better friendships.

Mistake #5: Instant Aggression

Are you a prideful or defensive person?  Do you often get mad and realize later it was uncalled for? Being instantly mean to others because you think they’re being unkind can make people dislike you. So before you get really mad, take a moment to think and stay calm. People will like your calm and patient attitude more. 

So, if you’ve ever felt like people don’t like you right away, it might be because of these habits. But remember, it’s okay to make mistakes and learn from them. We all do! By following these simple solutions, you can make people like you more right from the start. It’s all about making people feel heard, valued, and important. You’ve got this!