Media often depicts jealousy in a very outward manner with demonstrations, such as unhealthy obsessions, possessiveness, and inappropriate ways of acting out. But, what about jealousy that is subtle and hard to read? Introverts, for instance, are naturally more mysterious by nature, because they like to internalize their thoughts and feelings, rather than being an open book. This makes it hard to tell whether or not an introvert is jealous. So, what are some effective strategies to read them? Psych2Go shares with you 5 signs an introvert is jealous:
1. They want to be just like you.
Although having someone copy you might seem flattering initially, there’s more to that underneath the surface. According to psychotherapist Robi Ludwig, displaying copycat tendencies is a phase someone goes through to develop their individuality. However, Ludwig states that if the phase lasts too long, then it can be an indicator that the person is missing an essential core of who they are. To make up for this emptiness and lack of strong sense of self, they end up trying to be someone else, hoping to fill the void that lives within them. The copycat tendencies she speaks of is more intense than just following a fashion trend or engaging in activities that are considered culturally hip or cool.
If an introvert is jealous, they are more naturally inclined to internalize the green monster. Instead of being outward and upfront about it, they may admire you from afar and copy your work or lifestyle. Ludwig states that extreme copying reveals the individual’s low self-esteem and inferiority complex. Celebrities get copied all the time, because people have a tendency to idolize famous individuals, thanks to media portraying their lives as glamorous and exciting. But, when your friend or coworker copies you, it may feel like a betrayal more than a compliment.