That warm, fuzzy feeling when you meet someone to be interested is one of the best feelings in the world. It can make you feel as if you’re flying, and they’re always at the back of your mind. When thinking of your crush, the possibilities seem endless. However, when does it become unhealthy for you? While having a crush is an amazing thing to look forward to, they can end up doing more harm than good. Whether it be by becoming an obsession or becoming a drain on your energy, crushes are not always a good thing. After all, as the one constant in your life, you have to take care of yourself as number one. Want to know if your crush isn’t healthy for you? Or perhaps you don’t have one now but still want the information for the future. Whether you’re head-over-heels for someone or not, these 5 signs are sure to help you!
1. Your crush is unavailable
While it may seem obvious, people can be unavailable in many different ways besides already dating someone. Of course, if your crush is already taken, it’s probably best to try to move on without acting upon it. However, besides this, people can be emotionally unavailable as well. If your crush is going through a hard time or just broke up with someone, they probably need space and time before starting something new with anyone. Don’t rush them or try to replace someone else, for it might end up ruining your chances and hurting them in the process. Finally, if your crush is a celebrity, chances are it will never work out. While almost all of us crush on attractive celebrities from time to time, if you’re waiting around for your shot with one or comparing everyone to one, it’s probably time to move on. After all, you don’t want to miss out on an amazing person simply because you’re chasing someone that there’s a one in a million chance of meeting. The bottom line is you deserve someone who is going to cherish you when they’re ready to.
2. Your sense of self-worth depends on them
Getting a compliment from your crush can make your day, leaving you feeling warm and bubbly inside. However, this can get out of control if you end up feeling like you need their validation to love yourself. Have you ever tried to change to get your crush to like you? While we all may have faked a shared hobby or interest once before, it’s very easy to let it get out of control. The bottom line is you should try to love yourself no matter if your crush likes you or not. If they don’t like you for who you are, it’s their loss, not your responsibility to change.
3. You neglect other aspects of your life for them
We’ve all been there: waiting around for a text from the cute person you just met, ready to drop everything for them. It can be tempting to focus all your time and energy on a new and exciting person, but you need to take care of yourself as well. If you’re constantly giving up things you used to prioritize, such as hanging out with friends, hobbies, or responsibilities, you may be too obsessed with them. Especially if you’re ditching these things to make last-minute plans with them, for you shouldn’t have to be the last resort for anyone. After all, an intense crush is more often than not short-term, so you have to invest in yourself in the longterm.
4. You think they’re flawless
I’m sure all of us can relate to thinking their crush couldn’t do anything wrong. It’s tempting to always side with them and claim they’re perfect. However, as hard as it may be to realize, no one is perfect. Not even your super attractive, funny, and charming crush is. By thinking they are, you can end up being blind to their weaknesses and possibly red flags. It’s better to try to see your crush as a human, for if you don’t idolize them, you can form true connections and be vulnerable around each other.
5. Your social media stalking is getting out of hand
A crush can be like a magnet, for it always seems like your eyes just naturally gravitate towards them. It’s completely normal to keep an eye out for them and want to learn more, so naturally, we turn to social media. After all, it’s the easiest way to get a basic overview of someone. Especially now, when it feels like most of our interactions happen through a screen. However, if you’re digging through their social media and all their friends’ pages for hours on end, you may be too obsessed with them. Particularly if you’ve seen more of their pictures than had conversations with them. After all, the best way to get to know someone is by talking to them, not combing through their photos.
Crushes can be fun and amazing, but don’t let yourself be swept up in them. With all the social pressure to be constantly dating or liking someone, don’t be afraid to be single and work on yourself. There may be some stigma around being a “desperate” single, but there is nothing wrong or shameful with being single. The bottom line is you have to try to be the person you always want to be with or without a crush. Do you have anyone you’re head over heels for? If not, that’s okay! Either way, feel free to leave a comment about your thoughts and if these signs helped you!