Hello, Psych2goers! Have you ever wondered why you might’ve been feeling lonelier than usual for weeks or months on end? Did that leave you feeling confused and agitated?
In today’s article, let’s take a look at some signs you’re experiencing deep loneliness.
Disclaimer: This article is meant for educational purposes only. Do not use information in this or any other article to self-diagnose or diagnose other people. If you feel that you or someone close to you may possess some of the characteristics mentioned in this or any other article on our blog and need help then please, consult a licensed mental health professional. This article is not a substitute for professional advice, but for general guidance.
You only hang out with other lonely people —
You’d think that a group of lonely people getting together would assist to ease those lonely feelings, but that isn’t the case.
According to research published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology by Cacioppo and colleagues if you regularly see someone else who is lonely too, you’re 52 percent more likely to feel lonely yourself.
The issue is that when you’re lonely, you’re more likely to be socially awkward and unpleasant, exaggerating situations and responding without regard for self-awareness. This encourages others to act (and feel) hostilely in response, reinforcing the cycle of isolation and contempt.
You’re fixated on possessions —
According to psychologists, having strong attachments to inanimate objects is an indication of deep loneliness, and these attachments eventually make you lonelier.
However, unlike social media, materialism does not always cause loneliness in the same way that loneliness produces materialism. Being lonely can easily lead to retail-therapy cycles, in which you desire more and more while receiving less and less. All of this can add up to debt and diminish savings, compounding any stress you may already be experiencing.
You feel isolated and alone, all the time —
You can be surrounded by your entire friend group and, yet, feel isolated, and disengaged. At other times, you may feel alienated and alone. You feel the same irrespective of where you are or who you are with. It’s as if this feeling doesn’t ever leave you alone.
You tend to overshare when someone is there to listen —
Someone who is experiencing deep loneliness may seize every opportunity they get to talk to someone about themselves because they do not know when they’ll be able to do so again. It may have already been a long time since they last spoke to someone.
People who experience deep loneliness may be worried that once this person leaves it’ll be a long time before they get to open up to someone again.
You are becoming obsessive with friendships —
Perhaps it is a fear of losing all your friends or not being confident to make new friends. A person who is experiencing deep loneliness clings to the friendships that they have managed to make.
You may feel like you might not have any friends if these friends leave and it will be hard for you to build new relationships.
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