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Have you ever seen a close friend and felt like something was off? Did you notice that they were feeling down and forcing themselves to look happy? With the increased importance that society has started putting on mental health, depression has gained a lot of attention as a complex and severe mental illness that affects a bigger number of lives than what people might expect. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression globally (World Health Organization, 2021).
Fortunately, with the increased attention and focus that depression has received, several symptoms and treatments have been found, making it a treatable illness. However, even if the symptoms are known, depression is still a relatively difficult illness to deal with, both for those who suffer it and those around. Even if you are able to notice someone who suffers from depression, it’s still difficult to find the right things to say. As such, this article will be mentioning 6 texts someone with depression will love to see.
“I love you and nothing will ever change that”
How would you feel if you were feeling lonely and someone texted this to you? One of the things that depression does to people is that it makes them feel very lonely, helpless, and a burden to everyone (Heads Together, 2021). Receiving unconditional love can completely change people’s perspectives about themselves and the world, especially when they are feeling down and beating themselves up. Additionally, it will give them that extra motivation and energy to deal with what they are going through as best as they can. It does not have to be an “I love you” if you don’t really feel like that but showing that you care will absolutely mean the world to them.
“Take your time, we’ll be seeing each other once you feel better”
Do you often see people trying too hard to show their support to someone who suffers depression? Although it’s true that supporting those who suffer from depression is very important, often times, giving them space and time alone can be very helpful (Heads Together, 2021). After all, being alone is one of the only ways that people can sort out and digest their own thoughts and emotions. Letting them know that you’re okay with them taking their time will show that you understand how difficult it is to deal with depression.
“You don’t have to be perfect 100% of the time. Just being you is enough”
Can you relate with people who are perfectionists and have extremely high expectations of themselves? Then, texting them this phrase will be something that they will love if they are suffering from depression (Real Depression Project, 2021). Everyone strives to be the best that they can be and improve every day. However, this has led a lot of people to have extremely high expectations and pressure themselves to achieve the impossible, being “perfect”.
Letting someone who is suffering from depression know that there really is no need to do everything perfectly all the time, and that there are people out there who appreciate them for being themselves is very important. It will let them alleviate some of that pressure, allow them to relax and focus on themselves, rather than what other people might think.
“No matter what happens, I’m here for you”
One of the main things that make depression so difficult to deal with is that the people who suffer it withdraw themselves from social interaction. This will happen either because they feel like a burden and they feel like no one understands them. This will make them feel very lonely, which is why telling them that you’re there for them, no matter what happens, will have an incredibly positive impact on them because they’ll know that there is someone they can rely on no matter the circumstances (Schimelpfening, 2020). This will promote better, and more open communication, which might just be the key to dealing with negative thoughts/emotions, and ultimately help in treating the illness.
“It will pass, we can ride it out together”
Are you aware that people who suffer from depression often become hopeless of the future? The phrase: “It will pass, we can ride it out together” could really mean the world to them (Psych Central, 2017). After all, you’re basically letting them know that you’re here supporting them, while giving them a promising outlook towards the future.
It is very normal for people who suffer with depression to lose perspective because of all the negative thoughts and emotions going through their heads. So, being that “alarm clock” by reminding them that things will get better in the future, and that they just need to endure it until that time comes, will be extremely important for them.
“Do you want me to pick up your favourite food for you?”
Can you recall a time that you were starving, but didn’t feel like cooking anything, and one of your best friends shows up with your favourite food? It might be a very specific scenario, but if you have experienced it, you probably know how much it can mean. One of the symptoms that people with depression show is a drastic change in eating patterns. They are often too tired and unmotivated to prepare a meal or eat, so texting them that phrase will mean that much more to them. They’ll know how much you care about them and how willing you are of going out of your way to bring them their favourite food and hanging out with them.
To conclude this article, if you know anyone who is suffering from depression, and you feel lost as to what to say to make them feel better, try any of the phrases mentioned above. A lot of times, people try to find direct solutions that the problems that people are facing, but in reality, sometimes just being there for them and showing your support and care is more than enough and can really mean much more than concrete solutions.
Heads Together. (2021). 10 Things to Say to Someone with Depression. Retrieved 3 May 2021, from https://www.headstogether.org.uk/10-things-to-say-to-someone-with-depression/
Psych Central. (2017). Best Things to Say to Someone Who’s Depressed. Retrieved 3 May 2021, from https://psychcentral.com/lib/best-things-to-say-to-someone-whos-depressed#1
Real Depression Project. (2021). Cute Texts Someone With Depression Will Love. Retrieved 3 May 2021, from https://www.instagram.com/p/CMrd2UdHzD6/
Schimelpfening, N. (2020). What to Say When Someone Is Depressed. Retrieved 3 May 2021, from https://www.verywellmind.com/what-to-say-when-someone-is-depressed-1067474
World Health Organization. (2021). Depression. Retrieved 3 May 2021, from https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/depression