Have you ever wondered if you’re going to end up being single forever?
Living a life without a partner can be unfathomable for many people.
Some people may not even get a chance to be in a relationship, whether out of their choice or out of circumstance.
Of course. You have the power to change your destiny. If you don’t plan to be single forever, being aware of the reasons that might be keeping you single might help you change that.
Here are some signs that you may be single forever.
Disclaimer: If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This article was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck. This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This article is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.”
You genuinely don’t want to be in a relationship
Are you afraid of commitment? Or are you turned off from the idea of pursuing a romantic relationship?
For some people, the concept of living with one person for the rest of their lives sounds taxing. Some people don’t like the commitment being in a relationship entails — and would rather go on flings or maintain a tight group of friends as their means of social support. Some people can’t see themselves in a relationship due to unhealed commitment issues as well. If the intent isn’t there, then you’re likely not to stumble into a relationship.
You’re not letting new people enter your life
Are you rejecting the thought of meeting new people? Are you set on the idea of not entering relationships with your friends?
People are social beings, and meeting someone new is a big part when it comes to dating. By closing off your doors to the thought of others, you’re passing up the opportunity for meeting people that you may click with. You could be closing others off out of fear of being rejected or having low self-esteem issues. But by doing that, you’ll have little chance of finding someone for who you may end up developing feelings.
You’re not willing to try new things
Are you doing your same routine, day in and day out?
Binging movies for hours and destressing through your usual activities may be soothing, but dedicating all of your free time in that can prevent you from trying out new things. Doing fun things doesn’t have to be an all-at-once effort. It can be as simple as integrating a new habit into your weekly routine — like going out for a nice walk or meeting new people and friends online. This can expose you to new things — or new people — that can lead to something more.
You’re not over your ex
Are you still stuck in past relationships?
The pain that a messy breakup can cause a person can lead them to feel stuck in the past and incapable of moving on from a relationship that’s moved on. It can lead you into feeling emotionally trapped, even if you know deep inside that it’s something you should let go of. One way to move on is by cutting off contact with them through social media sites and consulting a therapist. It’s a slow process, but with effort, you can get back on track and learn to love again.
You are still waiting
Do you think your “perfect” person will come soon?
Maybe you’re reserving your heart for someone. Maybe you feel that no one is right for you just yet.
It’s ok to have standards — but if you fail to be optimistic for anyone that doesn’t fit the “perfection” checklist, it’ll be near-impossible to move on from being single. It’s impossible for any relationship to be devoid of any minor flaws – that’s just how it is to be human. It’s in growing together and working through these differences where you can feel that the relationship never needed to be perfect, just real.
You have major trust issues
Do you have trouble trusting other people?
Trust issues can be the cause of a traumatic childhood experience, a failed relationship, or a bad upbringing. A healthy relationship is founded on honest communication and trust — and if you or anyone you know had their trust hurt before, you may find relationships as avenues where you can get hurt all over again. You don’t want to open your heart to another person again and expose yourself to vulnerability — so you’d rather stay single to comfort yourself from the pain.
Do you still think you’ll be single forever? Do you find yourself relating to these signs?
Your life situation can be just as different next year as it is today. Don’t wait to rush things – you’re just on time.
That’s all for now Psych2Goers!
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