6 Things That Asexuals Relate To

Hello, Psych2goers. Do you know anyone who’s asexual? What kind of situations do they relate to? We’re going to dive in more with this topic. Disclaimer: Sexuality is subjective and complicated. The following ideas may not resonate the same from person to person.

1. Limited attraction

Some asexuals don’t experience any attraction, yet some do experience a little bit. In one video, an asexual, Lauren, stated that when she was in high school, she was not attracted to anyone. Kissing a person feels like kissing a wall to her (AnthonyPadilla, 2020).

2. Asexual and celibacy assumption

Andrew, who identified himself as a grey asexual, shared the experience of the misunderstanding of asexual and celibate. He explained that someone did tell him that he was asexual as well, such as not having sex this year. However, Andrew said that it wasn’t a seasonal lifestyle, but a daily one (AnthonyPadilla, 2020).

3. Feeling “wrong”

Another asexual, Shelby, revealed that when she was in her early 20s, her boyfriend didn’t appreciate that she had never had sex before. He would pressure her by saying something was wrong with her. At that time, Shelby genuinely felt guilty for being that way. She even considered whether there was a need to visit a doctor (AnthonyPadilla, 2020).

4. Assumed asexuals despise others with sexual attraction

In a speech by Danika Vrtar, she mentioned that a lot of asexuals actually don’t hate people who had a sexual attraction. In her opinion, she finds sex unnecessary and she just doesn’t care about it, but she never hated people who have sexual attraction (Vrtar, 2018).

5. Asexuals actually like relationships

This feeling can differ. Some asexuals are romantic yet some are aromantic. Danika explained that many asexuals are involved in romantic relationships and they still like dating. She pointed out, “Love can exist without sex.” (Vrtar, 2018).

6. Assumed asexuals are heartless

Danika debunked the misconception that when asexuals didn’t want sex it would also mean they could not love. She shared that she loved her family members and her friends. She also emphasized the importance of accepting who they are (Vrtar, 2018).

Conclusion

How well do you or anyone around you relate to this brief article? Leave your comments below!

References

AnthonyPadilla. (2020, January 14). I spent a day with ASEXUALS [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zW29J3nxjis

Vrtar, D. [Tedx Talks]. (2018, April 25). The Amazing Aces: A Talk on Asexuality | Danika Vrtar | TEDxYouth@Dayton. [Video]. Youtube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1tmF2x1yf3Q