No relationship is perfect.
There will always be problems and this can either strengthen or weaken the bond of those involved.
Do you feel like your partner is a tad too controlling?
Do they get jealous a lot, and tell you about how they feel worthless without you?
Most probably, your partner is insecure.
And here are more indications of it.
Friendly disclaimer: This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.
1. They are always saying sorry.
Yes, even if it isn’t their fault.
Insecure partners will do anything to keep you around, even if that is avoiding problems to reduce arguments.
They feel that if they do something wrong, it will cause you to leave them.
This kind of mindset is not healthy and should be addressed immediately.
2. They will do anything to fit into your standards.
Others will go about doing this excessively.
They feel like they always have to look good or act well.
Sometimes, they will undergo plastic surgery because they feel like they aren’t enough.
Do you notice your partner getting nervous around you whenever they “slip up”?
Have you noticed them lying about themselves?
It may help to constantly reassure them about their worth and how you feel about them.
But if the situation gets worse, you may suggest they talk to a therapist to develop a healthier outlook of themselves.
It’s important you be with them every step of the way because you don’t know what they went through to get to that state.
3. They put you on a pedestal.
Do you sometimes feel like your partner idolizes you?
That instead of being equal, they see you as something greater – and it makes them do things out of the ordinary.
For one, they will try to cater to your every need.
They might also show hesitation around you. Scared that what they say will make you angry.
They likely are not confident enough in themselves and try to do everything “right” to seek approval from you, a person they admire.
4. They agree even if it’s time to disagree.
Healthy arguments are part of any relationship.
It is a way of expressing different ideas and getting to know your partner more.
An insecure partner will always try to agree with you, to the point where you feel like they’re always making compromises.
They are afraid to say no and are quick to agree with your side of the argument.
It may help to encourage them to open up about their own thoughts and assure that you won’t react rashly.
That way, they will get used to the idea of having a safe space.
Here are healthy arguments and how to have them.
5. They use manipulative tactics on you.
“I’m nothing without you.”
Does this sound familiar?
To others, it may sound romantic.
But to those with insecure partners, this statement takes on a whole other meaning.
It shows that their partners have low self-esteem and will do almost anything to retain the relationship.
They may feign illnesses, lie about issues, just to keep you by their side.
It might even escalate to really severe methods such as suicide attempts.
Be mindful of these signs, and make sure to reach out for appropriate help when the time presents itself.
A licensed professional may help in diagnosis and recovery.
6. They are jealous and possessive.
Insecure people will most likely see everyone as a threat.
This is why they will place odd rules like “no talking to this person” or “block them on social media” even though the other person did nothing wrong.
To put it simply, they lack trust in you.
They feel like you will do something that will put the relationship at risk, such as cheating and the like.
In these moments, communication is highly important.
Create healthy boundaries. Explain your side, and how their actions make you feel.
Hopefully, they will understand.
7. They won’t stop reviving a dead relationship.
How many times did the thought of breaking up cross your head?
How many times have you actually initiated a breakup?
Most probably, they didn’t let you continue and either diverted the situation or offered a countermeasure.
If these types of thoughts frequently go through your head, then it’s likely time you break up with them.
It is encouraged to find them a support group such as their friends and loved ones beforehand, as this might become a big blow to their mental state and let them spiral down.
Support is vital to recovery, so it helps to be the bigger person and ensure they’re not left alone after the breakup.
Take your time.
It isn’t easy, but letting go of toxic people is also a form of self-care.
PLEASE SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS
Are you currently in a relationship with someone you think is toxic?
Do you see these traits in yourself?
Insecurity is something almost all people deal with and this is brought by different factors from childhood upbringing to your current environment.
Always remember that you could always talk to someone for help.
Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.
We appreciate hearing about your experiences.
Thank you for reading. Until next time!
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