Are you getting a tugging feeling that someone likes you, but they have been giving you mixed signals and you have no idea what is going on?
Well, there are people who would straight up ask you out and tell you how they feel towards you. But, there are others who are not into this approach and sometimes their behaviours can get super confusing and mysterious.
There are a number of reasons why someone pretends not to like you even though they are interested and attracted to you. They could be nervous, unsure of what you are feeling towards them, trying to suppress their feelings, not looking for a relationship or emotionally not ready.
To help you to get more clarity and affirmation, here is a list of clear indications that someone likes you, but is trying not to show it by pretending.
They are hot and cold towards you
Ah, yes. The hot and cold treatment, we have all been through this before isn’t it? There are moments where they would text you all day long and next you know, without any warning they would just ignore you completely. This behaviour will certainly make you wonder if they like you, or are you thinking too much.
Well, when they are giving you such mixed signals, it usually shows that they like you a lot but they feel unsure of what they want and get scared of their feelings towards you. Hence, by doing this, they do not have to justify their behaviour and when they show too much affection.
They notice and remember every detail about you
As we know, people are selective when it comes to processing and remembering information. If you start to observe that they notice every detail about you or remember what you mentioned some time back (whether it is something important or totally random), you can be sure that they are definitely paying close attention to you and want to learn more about you.
They ask you lots of personal questions
Besides noticing and remembering details about you, they are most likely asking questions about your upbringing or even how your day was as they want to know everything about you and update your profile created in their heads.
If someone is not interested why would they invest their time in trying to know more about you? It doesn’t make sense at all isn’t it?
They display positive body language signs around you
Are they always sitting close to you when you two are together? Or have you noticed that there has been prolonged eye contact, having their feet pointing toward you, leaning in when talking to you and so on?
We are not talking about buddy pats on the back or slaps on your arm. We are talking about those touches that are softer, more sensual and emotional – small, yet powerful moves.
Positive body language is a huge tell-tale sign that they are into you as people do not throw themselves onto just anyone. They may pretend that they don’t like you with their words, but their body language will eventually give it away.
They always makes time for you
One of the most obvious ways to know if someone likes you is the amount of time they spend with you. Let’s be honest, time is the most important asset that everyone has, and no one will spend their time with someone who they don’t like. Would you?
If they are always making time to hang out with you one-on-one or go out of their way to be there for you when needed, it shows that they are genuinely interested in you and care about you.
Their friends know their boundaries
When you are hanging out with them and their friends, is it clear that they have boundaries around you? If that is the case, they have probably already mentioned their interest and intention towards you to the people around them. By creating this awareness is also a way for them to keep their friends from making a move on you unintentionally.
They make comments about you being together
Last but not least, no one will ever make a comment or joke about the idea of you two getting together because it would create false hopes. So when this happens, you know for sure that it has been on their mind and they have been thinking about the idea of you two being together seriously.
Now that you have a better understanding of the signs someone likes you while pretending not to, you can start to observe and see if they exhibit multiple of such behaviours around you. While at it, I hope you stay patient and give them the space needed to process their thoughts and perhaps, admit how much they actually like you.
“It’s hard to pretend you love someone when you don’t, but it’s harder to pretend that you don’t love someone when you really do.” – Unknown