What is your ideal life? And are you living it right now?
For a lot of us, these questions feel too heavy and too daunting to answer. Finding fulfillment in such a competitive, success-driven world can be scary, but you shouldn’t let it intimidate you into living the rest of your life stuck inside your comfort zone. After all, it’s only human nature to seek passion, excitement, greatness, and above all else, emotional fulfillment. And a life with no spark is hardly a life at all.
So don’t make the mistake of being too afraid to admit to yourself if you are living an unfulfilled life. Instead, think of it as an opportunity to challenge yourself and realize your full potential. After all, the reason why you feel so unfulfilled in the first place is because you know you were meant to do so much more. And as Robert Schuller once said, “It’s those unfulfilled dreams that keep you alive.”
With that said, here are 7 signs you’re living an unfulfilled life:
1. You feel bored with everything.
Lazy, disinterested, and apathetic – that’s how you feel most of the time these days. And really, who can blame you? Every day you wake up and you already know everything that’s going to happen, because you’re just doing the same things you always do and going through the motions of it all. Everything is so dull and predictable that it makes you feel more like a robot than an actual person, stuck living life on autopilot. You feel bored out of your mind and keep wishing, hoping, and praying for something interesting to happen to you – which brings us to our next point!
2. You spend most of your time daydreaming.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with daydreaming. A lot of us do it often enough, and it’s certainly an enjoyable way to spend our time. But if you find yourself daydreaming most of your days away, especially when you never used to do that, then that should already be your first clue that there’s something missing in your life. Why else would you rather spend your time lost in a fantasy inside your own mind than actually living it? You’re unhappy with the way things are and want to escape to someplace better.
3. You don’t know who you are.
Another definite sign that you are living an unfulfilled life is if you are struggling with a lot of confusion about who you are and what you want. Of course, it’s not easy finding yourself and knowing who you are; most people spend years on a journey of self-discovery and soul searching. But as we grow older, mature, and become wiser, ideally, we should get a clearer and better understanding of the kind of person we are at our very core. But if, even after all this time, you still haven’t the slightest idea who you are or aren’t the person you once thought yourself to be, it might be because you’re not living life authentically.
4. You have no plan for the future.
Similar to our last point, if you are simply coasting through life with no direction whatsoever, the harder it will be for you to know who you are, what you want, and where you want to be in the future. Do the questions “What are your plans for the future?” and “Where do you see yourself in a few years” always leave you in state of panic and anxiety? Do you often feel worried and emotionally distressed because you think you’re not living up to your potential or living life to the fullest? As much as we don’t want it to be true, there’s a reason why you’re feeling this way, and you need to be honest with yourself about why.
5. You don’t know what your values are.
American hero and founding father Alexander Hamilton said it best when he said, “Those who stand for nothing will fall for anything.” So, what do you stand for? What are your values? If you don’t know the answer, then it’s probably because you either need to get to know yourself better, or you are living a life that is not aligned with these values, making you feel lost and confused.
6. You overvalue other people’s expectations.
The Dalai Lama was right when he said that “We humans are social beings, and we come into this world as the result of others’ actions.” But there should always come a time in our lives when we stop letting ourselves be defined by our relationships with others and prioritizing their wants, needs, and expectations over our own. Can you say the same is true for you? Whether it’s your parents, your friends, your romantic partner, or even your culture or society as a whole, you shouldn’t let anyone else tell you who to be or how to live your life. Doing so will only make you feel empty, lonely, miserable, and confused.
7. You’re easily envious of others.
Our emotions tell us a lot about who we are and what we want, and envy is no exception. If you find yourself feeling a lot of jealousy towards those around you, especially when they succeed, then it means that they have something you want and wish for yourself as well. So pay attention to the things that make you jealous. Is it their financial stability? Their social status? Their relationships? Or their professional achievements? Whatever it might be, your jealousy is a sign that there is something missing in your life and you are feeling unfulfilled because of it.
So, do you relate to any of the signs we’ve mentioned above? Do you think you are living an unfulfilled life and still searching for your purpose? Remember, finding fulfillment in life is no easy feat, so don’t beat yourself up too much if you’re not there yet. What matters most is that you are honest with yourself about what’s wrong with where you are now and start working towards where you want to be in the near future. Never stop growing, and never settle for anything less than what you deserve.