Do you ever wonder if you’re doing all you can with your life? If you’re living it to the fullest or wasting it? First of all, don’t worry: it’s common to wonder these things from time to time, especially when you can’t find the answer right away.
We’re here to help you out as much as we can. And know that if you relate to these signs and find that you may be wasting your life, it’s never too late to turn around, make a change, and live the best life you can. With that said, here are 7 signs you might be wasting your life:
1. You think too much about life
Reflection is great! It helps you learn from your mistakes and better yourself as a person. But, there is such a thing as too much reflection and too much analysis.
If you spend so much time thinking about your life, you spend that time not living it. Don’t worry too much about the future, spend less time on what you can’t control and spend more time doing rather than planning.
2. You throw yourself into work
It’s no secret that work is an essential part of life. Oftentimes, especially nowadays, work can even coincide with your passions and add to your fulfillment.
However, throwing yourself into work is not only unhealthy, but it takes time away from your social life and other aspects of personal growth outside of your career. Hard work is definitely important, but not at the expense of hobbies and connection with others.
If you find that you habitually throw yourself into work, don’t worry. Take a deep breath, take a step back, and work on making a few little changes at a time to carve out time for life outside of work. Start with cooking food for yourself, purposely checking in on friends, and keep slowly adding more to gradually achieve a healthier work-life balance.
3. You let your fears hold you back
Fear can be paralyzing. Life can bring a potential fear of rejection, heartbreak, loss, worthlessness and so much more (Deschene). But the truth is, fear itself is an obstacle and it can stop you from experiencing all the wonderful things life has to offer.
Fear is valid, and important, because it is a natural feeling designed to keep you from getting hurt. But a lot of times, it can be overpowering, especially if it’s strong emotions you fear. Fearing feelings like love, rejection, and failure can hold you back from experiences that could change your life for the better. So acknowledge your fears, but know when to listen and when to overcome them.
4. You just aren’t satisfied
Do you ever get that gut feeling that you just aren’t happy? Do you feel dissatisfied, like something’s missing? Hanging on to dissatisfaction is a sign of wasting your life only because there are ways you can combat it.
According to Kaye Ramos from Medium, dissatisfaction is actually also rooted in fear: the fear of disappointing others (Ramos 2017). When you put so much energy into fulfilling others’ expectations of you, you take focus away from fulfilling your own dreams and achieving fulfillment in your own life. In order to gain satisfaction, it’s important to put your own desires and needs first, so you don’t end up disappointing yourself while pleasing others.
5. You dwell in negativity
With life, there are ups and downs, successes and failures, good moments and bad ones. It’s important that when something bad happens, you allow yourself to fully acknowledge and express those emotions. However, it is equally important to heal, recover, and move forward.
According to Shannon Ashley from Medium, a good way to reframe past negativity or trauma is to try and use it to make the world better (Ashley 2019). It’s easy to get caught in the feelings of sadness, guilt, and worthlessness that bad experiences can bring about, but if you try to make a positive impact from it, you’ll be closer to a more fulfilling and happy life.
6. You don’t live in the present
Do you spend hours worrying about the future? Or replaying events from the past that you can’t change? All of that is normal, but it takes time away from making the most of the present.
Living in the present doesn’t mean being impulsive or completely care-free, but it means devoting most of your energy to making the present as great, meaningful, and fulfilling as it can be. Spending too much time in the past or the future is a sign of wasting your life because there is not a whole lot of impact you can make on the past and future by worrying about it. But by focusing on the environment around you, you do have the potential to make a huge impact in the present moment.
7. You forget to have fun
Do you regret spending too much of high school in your room studying? Do you wish you could remember more things you did? The truth is, fun experiences stick with you and shape who you are as a person.
According to Biologist Marc Bekoff from Psychology Today, having fun in life, is crucial to being happy and healthy. Bekoff says that depriving yourself of having fun can cause a range of mental and physical conditions such as aggression, obesity, and difficulties in regulating emotions (Bekoff 2014). Not only that, it also makes you unhappy, which is not a good way to live a fulfilling life.
So with all that said, remember to laugh, take some time off of work, and be okay with doing things just for fun!
We hope we were able to give you some insight on things that could be causing you to waste your life. Do any of these apply to you? Let us know. Thanks for reading!
- Ashley S. “What To Do If You Ever Feel Like You’ve Wasted Your Life”. Medium. 22 April 2019.
- Bekoff M. “The Importance of Play: Having Fun Must Be Taken Seriously”. Psychology Today. 02 May 2014.
- Deschene L. “When You Feel Purposeless and Fear You’re Wasting Time”. Tiny Buddha. N.d.
- Ramos K. “Almost Everyone Who is Not Satisfied With Life is Not Satisfied For The Same Reason”. Medium. 18 October 2017.