It’s usually considered that men are more straightforward and less wordy when they communicate. But, that’s just a stereotype and a social norm men are pressured to live up to. Because it’s seen as more macho to be serious, deadpan, and less verbal. The power of language, however, is that it acts as a medium that can be used to communicate what we hope to express, whether it’s washed over in cool shades of subtlety or is as bold and direct as fire. Here are 8 phrases men generally say when they are really into you:
1. This reminded me of you.
This shows that even when the both of you are apart, something came up that made him think of you. His mind has began to create a nostalgia map of you where he’ll associate certain patterns, scents, symbols, and experiences to be pieces of you.
2. They give you a nickname.
When men give you a nickname, it’s a way of being playful with you. But, it’s also a way of being less formal and closer to you. By giving you a nickname, it breaks the ice and encourages the two of you to grow more comfortable with one another.
My name is long, but at work and other formal social settings, whenever people ask me what I prefer to be called by, I always tell them to call me by my full name: Catherine. It’s what I’ve always been familiar with. However, the person I’m with started calling me Cat. I told him that the only person who’s ever called me that was my best friend from middle school. He’s continued to call me Cat ever since.
3. I can help you with that.
If he says this to you, it means that he wants to feel needed by you. Whether it’s offering you advice or physically helping you with something, if a guy is going out of his way to assist you, then he wants to show you that he’s reliable. Basically, he wants to make it clear that you can trust him.
Personally, this is one of my favorite phrases. There’s just something I find incredibly attractive about a person when he knows something and is giving good advice to me about it, because I’m often used to figuring things out on my own. It helps me take a step back and appreciate that things don’t necessarily always need to be tackled alone.
4. I miss you.
By telling you that he misses you, it indicates that he feels deeply about you. This, however, is not the case if you only receive late night texts from him. But, if you’re away on vacation or a business trip, and he tells you that he misses you, then it goes to show that your absence is noticed and it affects him.
So, funny story. I admittedly came off as a jerk when the person I’m currently dating told me that he missed me during the week I went away to New York to visit my relatives. At the time, two weeks had passed since we last saw each other. I misinterpreted what he meant and thought he was telling me that we weren’t going to work out. I win the big idiot award! Looking back, I realize now that my absence only made him want to see me.
5. I’m here for you.
When a guy uses this phrase, it means that he wants to be a part of your life. It’s similar to when he says that he wants to help you, because he’s demonstrating his reliability. If he tells you that he’s there for you, then he’s encouraging you to let your walls down. This creates stronger bonding between you two, and takes away from the “me,” and transitions it to a “we.”
Perhaps it’s because I’m slow to trusting others, but when a guy tells me that he’s there for me, I always make sure his actions match up with what he says. As time goes by, the more consistent they continue to be, the more I know that they actually mean what they say.
6. You’re beautiful.
If he’s naturally flirtatious and throws this phrase out too soon, then it means you’re probably not the only one he’s trying to make feel special. However, if he doesn’t comment on your physical looks all too often and is selective with giving out compliments, then he truly means it. In fact, it goes past how you look, and he means it both inside and out.
I usually know when men are only interested in me physically if they throw this phrase out on the first day of getting to know me. It’s pretty easy to scope out, and that kind of trick doesn’t work on me. But, if a guy holds out and doesn’t say this until he gets to know me on a deeper level, familiarizing himself with my beliefs, how I think, what I want out of life, etc., then the phrase holds more meaning when he says it.
7. I’m worried.
If he tells you that he’s worried about something going on in his life, then it shows that he’s opening up and being vulnerable with you. By letting you in, it shows that he’s letting his guard down and trusts you. Or if the concern is something that’s directed towards you, then it also goes to show that he cares about you and only wants the best for you.
One night, I bickered with the person I’m with over something small, yet also not so small. I thought he was being critical over my poor eating habits. I was being pretty defensive and told him that I’ve gotten better about what I choose to eat ever since I implemented more fruits instead of just including junk food in my diet. Then, he told me that he was only looking out for me. The bickering ended there when I realized he was only concerned about my well being. Again, I was the idiot when I allowed my stubbornness to take over.
8. I like/love/am in love with you.
This is the most obvious one. By choosing to be bold and upfront using this phrase, it means that he’s willing to put himself in a position where feelings might not be reciprocated. And yet, he’s choosing to express his feelings freely towards you regardless, because you’ve left such a strong impression on him.
I was comparing the veins on the wrist of the person I’m with to my own, and told him that his were much more blue than mine. But, I told him that I liked them and placed my hand in his. Then, he told me that he liked me. We were on our third date and it was the first time he said that to me. It took me by surprise, but the moment was ripe. I smiled and said it back to him.
How do you know when a guy is into you? Leave a comment down below!