In today’s day and age, it’s easy to feel like everyone around you is already in a loving, long-term relationship and that anyone who isn’t happily committed by now is doomed to a life of loneliness and anguish. Most people think that you can never really feel complete until you meet the right person, that falling in love is what makes life truly worth living. But the truth is, you don’t need anyone else to make you happy or give you emotional fulfillment.
Too often do people throw themselves into romance because they’re afraid of being alone. But as New York TImes best-selling author Mandy Hale once said,”Until you get comfortable with being alone, you’ll never know if you’re choosing someone out of love or out of loneliness.”
There are so many wonderful things about being single and free of romantic attachments, but most people are too blinded by their misconceptions about love to see that. You, on the other hand, know what you want and you don’t mind having to wait for it. You don’t want to settle for less than you deserve and you’re happy to stay single for now because you know that you are so much more than your relationship status.
With that said, here are 8 of the best things about being single:
1. You have more freedom
Is there a hobby you’ve always wanted to try? A passion or a skill of yours you’d like to pursue? Have you ever wanted to take more classes or visit more places? Devote more time to your career or your studies? Well, now you finally can! You’d be amazed at how much free time you have when you’re not tied down to someone else. Your newfound freedom allows you to dress the way you want, spend time with whomever you want, and do whatever you want without ever having to worry about someone else. Because when you’re single, you’re free to be as spontaneous and carefree as you’d like!
2. You’re more independent
Another great thing about being single? It makes you more independent. It teaches you how to be more autonomous and self-sufficient because the only person you need to worry about is yourself. You’re not obligated to do things you don’t like or befriend people you don’t want to because you’re not in a relationship with anyone. You get to focus more on yourself and decide what you really want without ever having to compromise. You are your own person, which means you make your own choices, you speak your mind, and you’re not afraid to put yourself first.
3. You’re more in touch with yourself
Being single is a great opportunity for you to get to know yourself better and get more in touch with your own thoughts, feelings, ideas, values, and beliefs. A lot of people lose their sense of identity when they’re in a relationship because they can’t focus as much on themselves and their own improvement. But when you’re single, there’s plenty of room for creativity, self-expression, and self-discovery, whether it’s through writing, painting, dancing, or making music.
4. You learn to enjoy your own company
Ever heard the saying “It doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone”? People who are single by choice are comfortable being on their own and doing things on their own. They like cooking for themselves, eating by themselves, sleeping by themselves, and even going out by themselves from time to time because they enjoy their own company. They like spending time with their own thoughts and they don’t need anyone else to take care of them or protect them. They’re mature enough to understand that love shouldn’t be an escape for people who don’t know how to be alone.
5. You spend more time with your friends
Studies show that those who are single have more lively social lives than married people. Admittedly, a lot of us are guilty of neglecting our friendships when we’re in a romantic relationship. And while many of us are lucky enough to have such understanding friends, we never once lose sight of the other important people in our life or forget the value of friendship. So now that you’re single, you’re probably spending more time with them than ever, which is great! You’re reconnecting with friends you haven’t seen in a while and having a blast.
6. You have fun with casual dating
Just because you’re not looking for anything serious right now doesn’t mean you’ve stopped going on dates or flirting with people you like. In fact, one of the greatest perks of being single is that you get to enjoy all the fun of casual dating without needing to overthink anything anymore. You don’t worry too much about making the wrong impression, or coming on too strong, or keeping them interested because you’re just looking for a good time.
7. You have more time for yourself
Quality time with your loved ones? Unapologetic pursuit of your passion? Pampering yourself to feel good? And then going home to veg out in the comfiest clothes you own? Yes, yes, and yes! You can do all these things and more when you’re single because it’s easier to take care of yourself now that you’re no longer preoccupied with romantic woes. Your mind is less cluttered, you have fewer responsibilities, and you waste less of your time and energy on needless drama. You’re better rested, less stressed, more focused, and have a lot more peace of mind when you’re happily single.
8. You’re more open to new things
FInally but perhaps most importantly, being single makes you more open to all the possibilities life has to offer. You have a newfound appreciation for your life that makes you want to take more risks and be more adventurous. You’ve become more optimistic, free-spirited, and open-minded. You feel like anything is possible because there’s no one holding you back from chasing your ambitions. The world is yours for the taking and life has never felt more exciting.
Do you relate to any of the things mentioned here? Are you enjoying being single right now? It’s important that you take the time to re-evaluate your life and gain a better understanding about your own needs, wants, and values before fully committing to someone else. Learn to fall in love with yourself first and trust in the timing of the Universe. Because when you’re happily single, you learn to find love in the most unexpected of places – in your friends, your family, and most of all, in yourself.