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Have you ever been intrigued by someone’s personality? They may not be the most attractive person you’ve ever seen, but there’s something about them that makes you believe they have their lives together and would make them a wonderful companion.
The truth is you have a lot more power than you give yourself credit for to exude an attractive personality. And don’t deny yourself just because you think your introversion makes it hard on yourself! The key here is to be aware of how other people feel when they’re around you. Hey, it’s Psych2Go. In this article, we’re going to talk about 8 ways to have an attractive personality. Let’s get right into it!
1. Be mindful.
The first way to having an attractive personality is mindfulness. Mindfulness means you are actually present with the people around you. It may sound lackluster, but it really makes a difference in your conversations and relationships. When you’re mindful, you’ll be able to notice when other people are feeling anxious, nervous, or uncomfortable. You’ll be able to recognize when you’re rambling on about a topic that the other person may not be as interested in as you are. Try to really focus and concentrate on the conversation at hand and really be engaged with the people who are around you. If you’re aware of how others feel, then it’s easier to make them comfortable.
2. Be a listener.
Being someone who people can come to for advice, for comfort, or when they have something on their mind is the best gesture of respect and recognition for them. It’s best if you can completely be tuned in to what the other person is saying. You don’t have to agree with everything they say, but give them the respect of listening. Other people can be drawn to you if you have this trait.
3. Be honest.
One of the most attractive traits is honesty. Why? Well, it shows people that you are trustworthy and it makes them feel secure around you. Instead of trying to impress others, try being honest with them. The best way is to be yourself in any situation. Don’t make up a personality that isn’t really yours because it will not be reliable eventually. Be honest with people about who you are and what you believe in and always show your authentic self to them. If they are drawn to you with your honesty, you are attractive to them.
4. Be confident.
Confidence makes us feel better about ourselves in general. People are attracted to confident individuals by nature. Focusing on insecurities as your topic can actually lead to more awkwardness and discomfort for everyone involved. Although you have your flaws, focusing on the things that make you awesome can really help to alleviate your insecurities and attain a positive effect on your well-being over time.
5. Be thoughtful before you say something.
Rather than just blurting out your first thought about something, think twice about what you’re going to say and the impression you’re making on other people before you say anything to avoid offending others. Even if you have objections against another party during a conversation, make sure your replies are thoughtful, respectful, and considerate of what they’ve said. It can also be unhealthy if you give too much criticism to others because you might unintentionally be administering a negative impact on them.
6. Be caring.
This is another one that’s pretty self-explanatory: show them you care! It doesn’t have to be a grand gesture or anything like that, but little things like opening the door for someone, do something unexpected to the person who helped you as a gratitude for them, or asking them how their day’s going can make a huge difference.
7. Make a good first impression.
This is an obvious one, but it’s still relevant! It’s important to make a good first impression because that’s what people remember you at the first meet-up. Making a good first impression is something anyone can do! The method is pretty simple: dress nicely, speak in a confident yet humble tone, and stand up straight with your head held high when approaching someone new.
8. Be open-minded.
This is a quality that will attract many friends! If you’re the type of person who will listen to all opinions and not judge people based on what they say or do, then this will help others feel comfortable around you. Not everyone wants to be judged for their actions, so try to see things from other’s points of view as well and give opinions when necessary. Take note that there are huge differences between giving opinions and being opinionated/judgemental.
Remember, these tips are not necessarily needed to make someone like you. These are just helpful ways that might help improve your relationship with others. It’s important to keep in mind that everyone is different and that what works for one person won’t always work the same way with another. So if it doesn’t seem to be going your way at first, don’t give up hope! Just be your amazing self, and you will be noticed by the right people! If you have any more tips to share, leave your comments down below! Stay authentic and take care!
- Lucy. (2021, April 13). 7 Authentic Ways To Have An Attractive Personality. #VagLife. https://www.vaglife.co.uk/empowerment/7-authentic-ways-to-have-an-attractive-personality/