Ever wondered what the secret to life was? What the key to finding real, lasting happiness and fulfillment is? Or how to make all your dreams come true? Of course you have! We all have, really. But what we don’t realize is that figuring what doesn’t make us happy, what’s holding us back and getting in the way of everything we want is just as important, too.
With that said, here are the 5 most common things we struggle with that hold us back from living a great, fulfilling life:
1. Other People’s Opinions
Deep down inside, we all know that we shouldn’t let other people and their opinions dictate our lives and tell us who we are. But we also know that it’s only human to crave their love, acceptance, and approval. We all want to feel like we belong, and we all want to receive validation from those around us. So it’s all too easy to make the mistake of changing who we are or what we want to accommodate the people we care about. But caring too much about other people’s opinions – to the point where you don’t even get a say anymore in what it is you want to do with your life – is only going to trap us in a life of regret and resentment. Don’t let your fear of judgment control you, and don’t let your fear of abandonment hold you back.
2. Your Relationships
Aside from the opinions of others, a lot of us are also guilty of letting our attachments to other people keep us from living our best life. Afraid to get a promotion and relocate to a new city because you don’t want to be in a long-distance relationship? Or go to a different college or declare a different major from your friends because you’re scared to drift away from them? Though it’s always important to take the people we love into consideration when making big life decisions, we should always consider ourselves and what we want more. And though you might think it’s selfish to do so, you shouldn’t feel guilty about prioritizing yourself and your own dreams! Everyone is on their own journey in life, so don’t stray away from your true path just because you’re afraid of being alone. As screenwriter Scott Neustadter once wrote, “People change, feelings change, but that doesn’t mean that what you once shared wasn’t real. It just means that sometimes when people grow, they grow apart.”
3. Your Past
It’s been said that until you heal from your past, you create from your past. And that would certainly explain why so many of us find ourselves falling into the same problematic patterns over and over again, even when we already know better. But letting your past control your future is no way to live your life and get to where you really want to go. Real authenticity and happiness comes from making peace with our past, letting it go, and learning to be more intentional with everything we do moving forward. Align your actions with the future you want, instead of the past you’re trying to outrun, and it will radically change your life for the better.
4. Negative Emotions
Negative emotions are labelled as such because none of us ever want to feel that way. Whether it’s anger, jealousy, hatred, or fear, negative emotions are corrosive to our mental and emotional well-being when we let them get the better of us. But that doesn’t mean we should just repress or deny them either! All emotions serve a purpose, so figure out why it is you’re feeling this way before you dismiss it. Learn from it and find constructive ways to resolve it. And like all other emotions, just give it time and it will pass. Don’t dwell on it too much and focus your attention more on your positive emotions and experiences.
5. Limiting Beliefs
American businesswoman and multi-millionaire Mary Kay Ash once said, “Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do, but you can only go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, you can achieve.” And there’s certainly a lot of truth to be found in her statement, because all too often are we our own worst enemies when it comes to achieving success and happiness in our lives.
And by far one of the worst ways we self-sabotage is by buying into our own limiting beliefs and letting it control our lives. Some examples of limiting beliefs are: thinking that we are only worthy if we have the love and approval of others; that our lives are only worth living if we do something great or accomplish a lot; that we should be remarkable in everything we do or we’ll be no good; and that every second we’re not working towards some great goal or dream in life, we are wasting away our potential.
But once you learn to overcome these limiting beliefs and start believing that anything is possible, then your potential will be unlimited! It’s going to take a lot of work to undo these unconscious limitations we’ve put on ourselves, but trust us when we say it will be more than worth it in the end.
So, do you agree with the things we’ve mentioned in this article? Are any of these 5 things holding you back from living a great life? If you liked this article and want to read more, here are our top recommendations for you: 6 Signs You’re Not Truly Happy, 4 Reasons Why You Feel Empty, 7 Signs of Self-Sabotage, and 4 Toxic Beliefs You Need To Get Rid Of.