Tales of a child of an alcoholic

[Kelly]

My mom and dad have had a strained relationship for years because of my dad’s passive aggressive angry behavior and her finding evidence of him drinking. While not physically abusive, she feels ignored, invalidated, and gas lighted when my dad ignores her outright (she also suffers from ptsd, social anxiety, and Lyme disease/chronic pain). She’ll send me texts meant for dad asking me to review them to see if she’s ‘attacking him’ or not. Even though she feels the best thing I can do is take care of myself, I feel useless and horrible that I don’t have the means to comfort her or fix her and dad’s relationship. I wish to be more assertive with looking after myself, but after many years of Co dependency, I worry about my mom complaining that ‘no one cares about her’.

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