QUIZ: How Emotionally Mature Are You?

According to American Psychological Association, emotional maturity is defined as “a high and appropriate level of emotional control and expression.” In contrast, emotional immaturity is “a tendency to express emotions without restraint or disproportionately to the situation”. 

Have you ever wondered about your level of emotional maturity? Perhaps you are curious whether you have the emotional and social skills to relate to others. Maybe you want to assess your capability to hold empathy for yourself and other people simultaneously? If you do, consider giving the quiz below a chance. Who knows, maybe you will gain insight about yourself and get to know yourself better. 

Sidenote: This is not your Algebra paper examination, so there is no ultimate right or wrong answer, and you don’t need to even bring a calculator with you. You only need to take a moment, sit with yourself, and give a sincere answer to each question.  With that said, let’s begin! 

  1. How do you regard yourself as a worthy person? 

A. Always

B. Mostly

C. Uncertain

D. Usually

E. Never

2. How do you feel when people say bad things about you? 

A. Always feel bothered

B. Mostly feel bothered

C. I simply don’t know

D. Usually feel bothered

E. Never feel bothered

3. What do you think about your attitude towards yourself? 

A. I always have a positive attitude towards myself

B. I mostly have a positive attitude towards myself

C. I don’t know

D. I usually have a positive attitude towards myself

E. I never had a positive attitude towards myself

4. How aware are you of your strength and limitation? 

A. Always

B. Mostly

C. Uncertain

D. Usually

E. Never

5. What is your reaction when you face emotional discomfort? 

A. I always try to find the cause of it 

B. I mostly try to find the cause of it 

C. I don’t know what will be my reaction

D. I usually try to find the cause of it

E. I never try to find the cause of it

6. Do you generally think from others’ point of view? 

A. Always

B. Mostly

C. Uncertain

D. Usually

E. Never

7. Do you consider yourself taking responsibility for your personal performance? 

A. Always

B. Mostly

C. Uncertain

D. Usually

E. Never

8. Imagine yourself in a stressful situation. Do you find yourself

A. Always stay calm

B. Mostly stay calm

C. I am unsure what I will do in that situation

D. Usually stay calm

E. Never stay calm

9. You clearly understand the emotions you go through

A. Always

B. Mostly

C. Uncertain

D. Usually

E. Never

10. To attain your goals, you 

A. Always channel my emotions appropriately

B. Mostly channel my emotions appropriately

C. I don’t know what I will do 

D. Usually channel my emotions appropriately

E. Never channel my emotions appropriately


Have you completed answering the above questions? Let’s calculate the score! Remember that we said you don’t need a calculator for this quiz? No worries, still, there will be no complicated algebraic formula involved! 

For every “A” answer, give yourself 5 points

Every “B” answer, 4 points

Every “C” answer, 3 points

Every “D” answer, 2 points

Every “E” answer, 1 point

Add up your points; the highest your points are, the highest your level of emotional maturity!

41 – 50 points

You possess an extremely high level of emotional maturity. You have a remarkable ability to sit with your pain and stay with the discomfort until you can identify your emotions. When you have made mistakes, you own them and find ways to rectify the situation. You always know how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and show empathy. 

31 – 40 points 

You have a high level of emotional maturity. In most situations, you validate your emotions and resist the urge to ignore or get rid of them. Most of the time, you take responsibility for what you have done wrong and try to make up for it. Seeing from other people’s point of view is often easy for you. 

21 – 30 points 

You have a moderate level of emotional maturity. You find yourself being able to control your emotions in one situation but unable to do so in a different situation. Furthermore, you find that you can relate and understand people who have different perspectives than you, but at other times, you do not. 

11 – 20 points

You struggle to make sense of your feelings and find them too overwhelming to deal with. You are not accountable and refuse to admit when you have messed up. You will also tend to think from your own perspective and may have difficulty thinking about other people. 

1-10 points 

You struggle to regulate your emotions in an age-appropriate way. You may lack emotional and social skills and have trouble relating to other people’s experiences. You dislike compromise and always want to have your own way. 

Final Word

So, what’s your level of emotional maturity? Let us know in the comments below!

Emotional maturity is always an ongoing process. It isn’t a situation where one reaches a certain level of self-understanding once and then remains static throughout life. However, you need to have a clear understanding of what you can do emotionally to handle any situation that comes your way. Moreover, it’s essential to know that not everyone can display emotional maturity in all situations. The most important thing is to be self-aware and improve ourselves each time. 

That’s all for now, Psych2Goers!


American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Emotional maturity. In APA dictionary of psychology. Retrieved March 14, 2022, from https://dictionary.apa.org/emotional-maturity

American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Emotional immaturity. In APA dictionary of psychology. Retrieved March 14, 2022, from https://dictionary.apa.org/emotional-immaturity

Singh Y. and Bhargava, M. (1990). Manual for Emotional Maturity Scale (EMS). National Psychological Corporation, Agra, India.

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