5 Signs An Ambivert Likes You
3. They Seem Like They’re Hesitating Around You
Sometimes ambiverts aren’t sure what to feel. One the one hand there might be a very strong urge inside of them to go home and chill. On the other hand, another part of their personality might be screaming at them to pluck up the courage to ask out their biggest crush. From the outside looking in, this can seem like the person is virtually being pulled in two different directions. This can often be very confusing for the people ambiverts have crushes on. They might even get the wrong impression about these ambiverted individuals. It’s not that they’re nervous persay, it’s more that ambiverts can’t quite decide whether taking the next step with their crush is the right decision for their social lives. They might start flirting with you confidently one minute, and then shy away from their previous actions the next. Alternatively, they might get you to the point where you’re sure that the next words out of their lips are going to be “Will you go out with me?”, only to leave you hanging.
It’s not like they changed their minds about liking you, it’s just their introverted side telling them that they’re getting themselves into a dangerous social situation. It’s important to remember that ambiverts wouldn’t be hesitating around you if they didn’t see you as an important person. In their minds, they see the prospect of going out with you as a very big deal, and an important decision to make. The only problem is that when it comes to this decision, both their introverted and extroverted sides are arguing with each other over who’s right!
Hey, just so y’all know, ambiverts aren’t a thing. Every single person has both extraverted and introverted parts to their personalities; it’s called the “cognitive functions”. Go look them up sometime. It’s actually a really deep and insightful analysis into how we think and function. Every person uses every letter, but the four-letter Myers-Briggs types (or, more loosely, just the E vs. I distinction) indicates your preference. Literally no one is 100% internally focused or 100% externally focused. We all go back and forth, and the people you want to call “ambiverts” are just more in the center of the sliding scale than some others are. (This isn’t even a psychology article, by the way, it’s a dating article disguised as a psychology article, and things like being shy have nothing to do with whether you’re introverted or extraverted.) For more information on cognitive functions, check out: http://www.typeinmind.com/type-theory/
If you understood how personality psychology worked this whole ambivert thing would not exist. We use our judging/perceiving, sensing/intuition, and feeling/thinking pairs in different proportions and those can be oriented either outwardly or inwardly. You wouldn’t say that someone is all logic or all feeling, would you? Because no one is 100% any particulat personality trait. And can we see a link to this research suggesting that 66% of the population are ambiverts?
This should provide some info:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-gen-y-guide/201701/the-introvertextravert-myth
I really enjoyed this article! The content that is in the article is very intriguing, relatable, and well written. I myself am I ambivert so I can definitely relate to pretty much all of the five things you mentioned. The only form of criticism that for this sentence
– “Research suggests that two thirds of the population are ambiverts, meaning you might know more about these types of people than you think.” I would use a hyper link to the article to let readers go to the website and read that specific information themselves. Also, instead of writing “research suggests” write the actual person that said that ‘two-thirds of the population are ambiverts’. Having that information gives the reader proof that you know what your talking about.
There are some sentences that I feel could have been written just a bit better. For example:
– “Sometimes, they prefer their own company and alone times while other times, they need to hang out with a lot of people.”
To me when I read this it was kind of confusing, here is an example of how I re-wrote that sentence:
– “Ambiverts need to find a balance to be around people and also have quality time with themselves to recharge. ”
My advice would be to always read what you have written out-loud. Often times when I’m writing papers and think that it’s good. It’s often not because when I read my papers out-loud, I find many mistakes like grammatical errors, sentence fragments, etc.
Another thing that I would focus on is double checking the grammar. For example:
– “Some people say they are social introverts or extroverted introverts or introverted extroverts, but truth ARE, they are just degrees of the umbrella term ambiverts.” Change ARE to is.
– “It’s not like they changed their minds about liking you, it’s just their introverted side *is* telling them that they’re getting themselves into a dangerous social situation.” (I added is)
Other than those things that I have mentioned, the article is very good, and well thought out!
– Kat
Another facet of ambiverts that we could exam would be how their language usage changes. (For more info, read this https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/you-are-what-you-say/ ) So, thinking on how language usage change, is it possible we could mark out someone as an ambivert just by the speech patterns that they use?
As a person who would be classified as an ambivert according to this article and the supporting research, I can attest to how my language patterns change depending on who I am around. If I am more familiar with a person, or group of people, I’m more likely to be lax in my language usage, use more slang, etc.
However, in a professional setting, or a setting where I am not exactly comfortable with who I’m dealing with, the articulation tends to be a more….profound type of articulation, such as to keep calm and make a point.
Before reading this article, I’d never heard of the term “ambivert”. But, now that I have, I’m interested to see if anyone I know is one. I know that I’m definitely not, but I feel like some of my friends could definitely be one. Where did all the research on ambiverts come from? Do you consider yourself to be an ambivert, and extrovert, or an introvert?