Bullying comes in all forms and ways, there’s no right or wrong, even
amazing qualities could be used as a ploy to make you feel inferior.
Bullies don’t have a criteria when it comes to people’s self worth, they
have a constant need to put others down. So it doesn’t matter what you
do, who you are, where you come from, what you say or have. It will
never be your fault and there’s nothing you can change in yourself in
order to be good enough for them, their standards are unachievable.
Signs of abuse can be noticeable even in the early stages of oppression,
so carry on if you want to know what they are.
While facing difficulties with bullies a person who has their emotional,
physical or mental integrity put in risk will commonly begin to isolate
themselves from other people like spending more time alone in their
room, not hanging out with their friends or simply having lunch on their
own. It works like a self defense mechanism, an attempt to prevent any
kind of social embarrassment from happening.
Low Self Esteem
Dealing with a bully can make you self doubt yourself frequently, guiding
you to thinking that you are who they are trying to paint you as.
Afterwards comes low self esteem and the belief that in fact, you
deserve what’s being served to you as it’s OK being hated on because
you aren’t worthy of anything rather than repugnance.
In frightening circumstances like having to be around the person who is
your oppressor, as human beings it is easy to feel trapped and like you
need to escape from that moment. Although when it’s not possible some
behaviors can indicate it.
They are: looking down or giving blank stares, a shaky body or trembling
voice, slightly raised eyebrows, half open mouth, bad posture (slouchy
body language provenient from muscle tension) and a tout brow.
Personality Or Look Change
In a desperate attempt of pleasing their intimidator they oftentimes
change the way they present themselves to the world. In order to
somehow get a little respect or bond with their bully, which results in
instant frustration considering that it doesn’t matter how hard they try it
will never be enough in their oppressor eyes.
It’s never easy having your worth as an individual neglected and
ridiculed, consequently victims of bullying will react in several
contrasting ways, one specially is anger! They can become more
aggressive in their tone or actions without having a coherent reason to do
it so, as if even simple daily tasks were irritating and would put them in a
Not everyone has the ability to express themselves clearly or just aren’t
in an environment where they feel they can open up and talk about their
problems safely, forcing them to hide and suppress their feelings as some
sort of emotional boundary.
The point is that as they don’t have an escape valve for everything they
keep on the inside it usually tends to come out as a mental breakdown,
which sometimes can lead to a physical breakdown that not only can
end up with them cutting an specific part of their body but also refusing
to eat their favorite meal for example or not going to that place they’ve
always loved so much.
It’s important for us to keep in mind that not every self harm is physical
and/or visible and that not all of them happen for the same reasons.