Are you looking to strengthen your mindset – maybe improve your psychological game for gain? Well, you’ve certainly come to the right place. Sure, we exercise for physical health benefits, but what about your mind? You deserve to be more mentally fit as well. Here are a few great tips and tricks mentally strong people are sure to follow.
Before we get started, please keep in mind that the information in this article is purely for general informational purposes and is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.
1. They Overcome Their Inner Critic
We all have that inner voice in our heads which tends to speak up more during unhelpful times of stress and worry. Mentally strong people know how to filter out this voice, and use this to their advantage in order to succeed. When you find your inner self steering down the path of negativity, understand where it may be coming from. What are you concerned about? Now what exactly is causing you to feel this way? Maybe you didn’t do so well on a recent test, or project, but remember that doesn’t define the entirety of who you are as a person. Instead, it would be more helpful to view your trips and stumbles as opportunities for learning, growth, and improvement.
2. They Practice Realistic Optimism
What is exactly realistic optimism? According to social psychologist, Heidi Grant Halvorson Ph. D, realistic optimists believe that they can be successful, but also understand that “they have to make success happen– through things like effort, careful planning, persistence, and choosing the right strategies”. Unrealistic optimists, on the other hand, believe that success will happen to them in a way through which there will not be any obstacles along the way. They practice positive thinking, but in an impractical sense. Mentally strong people see situations and experiences for what they are, with a realistic view of themselves and their capabilities. No, this isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do- but once you get a hang of this technique, you will view every situation that comes your way differently. As humans, we often categorize experiences or situations in definitive, “black and white” categories, to help us understand them better. However, viewing situations purely as “bad” or “good” does no good at helping you develop as a person. It is best to take things for the way they are.
3. They Don’t Compare Themselves to Others
Mentally strong people tend to not bother being overly concerned about where others are in life, and what their successes look like. Constantly comparing yourself to others in a negative way can only lead to you putting yourself down. Instead, surround yourself with people who inspire and motivate you to be your best self, and tap into your true potential. Know and create your own path to achieve your personal goals, ambitions, dreams, and desires. Create your own definition of success and stick to your plan- this will give you a much higher chance of finding happiness within yourself and in your life.
4. They Aren’t Afraid to Say No
Mentally strong people know their worth and their boundaries. One of the biggest things you can do for yourself to be strong-minded and self-assured is to give yourself the power and permission to say no to certain things that may come your way. This may be an invitation to a party that you are too busy to attend, your co-worker asking you if you can handle the rest of a project at the last minute, or someone trying to take advantage of you in any way shape or form. Don’t bite off more than you can chew, and avoid overextending yourself- which can lead to excessive stress and burnout. After all, you can’t please everyone, so the least you could do is respect your own time and energy.
5. They Avoid Running From Their Fears
The hard truth is, you will have to learn how to face your fears at some point. Whether that may be the fear of the unknown, or the fear of failure, mentally strong people take a hold of opportunities as a challenge to get out of their personal comfort zone. Push yourself to stretch your limits and expand your experiences through exploring your potential capabilities. According to Dr. Kathryn Papp, a neuropsychologist and neurology instructor at Harvard Medical School, taking part in new activities and experiences helps keep your brain in developing and growing, keeping it healthy. Dr. Papp explains that “this combination of growth factors and new brain cells—from healthy living, challenging the brain, and staying socially connected—may wind up helping to protect the brain or keep it more resilient.” So go meet new people, get involved in new opportunities (whether that may be personally or professionally), or indulge yourself in an adventurous activity. You don’t want to miss out on some amazing experiences that may be on the other side of where your destructible fears stand.
Remember, consistency and practice is key to training your brain to be mentally stronger. Reframing your mindset takes time and patience, and will not happen overnight. If you are seriously struggling with any mental health issues, please don’t hesitate to seek professional assistance. Be kind to yourself and take care of yourself so that you can truly be your best self. Good luck with your journey!
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