Have you ever been in love but it didn’t feel anything like they show in the movies? No butterflies or cheesy love songs in your head all day?
If you would like to learn more about a different form of ‘love’ keep reading.
Have you heard about the term toxic love? Do you know the difference between toxic love and healthy love?
In today’s articles let’s take a look at how you can tell the difference between toxic love and healthy love.
Disclaimer- This article is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This article is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This article is meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
The nature of the relationship
Health relationship: A Healthy relationship provides a safe space for individuals to make mistakes, learn and grow together. In a healthy relationship, both people are equally supportive, caring, and consistent. A partner will never hesitate to offer advice or help the person whenever necessary.
Toxic relationship: A Toxic relationship often ends up being a place where the person feels conscious, threatened, or constantly worried about the consequences of any of their actions. In a toxic relationship, a partner probably loses themselves in the process of pouring all their affection into the other person.
How you communicate when in a relationship.
When the love you have for someone is healthy, you communicate honestly about things concerning the relationship as well as yourself. You aren’t worried about how the conversation might affect the course of your relationship but you value each other enough to always be honest and work your way through.
If the love you have for someone is toxic, you’re more concerned with airing your grievances with each other and the status quo than with discussing what each of you does well.
How you handle conflict.
In a healthy relationship: Even when one of you is furious with the other, you think about their feelings and don’t want to bring them any unnecessary suffering by ignoring them or picking a fight. You sit down with each other and talk about it calmly. You let them know how you feel without being passive aggressive.
Toxic love: After a disagreement, one person usually entirely shuts out the other person.
The Room For Doubt.
When your love for someone is the healthy kind, if partner says they’ll do something, you know they’ll follow through no matter what. You never have to sit and wonder if they’ll actually do it
On the other hand, in toxic love, you never know if they’ll follow through on their promises or if it’s just another thing they said.
How you open up to your partner.
In a healthy relationship: you both feel comfortable talking about anything, even if it’s the fact that you ran into your ex or were hanging out with someone.
In a toxic relationship: You keep seemingly harmless things from them, including the fact of minor situations like who you were talking to, where you were, etc.
Zahra Barnes (December 13, 2015). 7 Differences Between A Healthy Relationship And A Toxic One. Retrieved from,