What Your Dating Profile Says About You

So, you’ve got a dating profile. Maybe you’re hoping to meet the love of your life, or just have a little fun – either way, it’s great that you’re putting yourself out there! But have you ever stopped to wonder what your profile really says about you? After all, the first impression you give to potential matches. Curious yet? Let’s find out what dating and social media experts have to say:

What Your Photos Say

On our dating profiles, we only have two ways of communicating who we are: words and pictures. Your photos are the first thing people see, and they can say a lot about who you are without a single word. Here’s a quick breakdown:

• Your smile is your best asset. When you’re smiling, you seem friendlier and more approachable. A genuine smile can also make people feel more at ease with you and more likely to want to get to know you.
• Pictures of you travelling or being active (such as hiking, skiing, kickboxing, or dancing) show that you have a zest for life and enjoy new experiences. These photos say, “I’m fun and always looking for my next adventure,” which can be very appealing to potential matches who share similar interests.
• Got a cute dog or a fluffy cat in your profile? That shows you’re caring and responsible. Plus, it’s a great conversation starter for fellow animal lovers. It’s also a subtle way to showcase your softer, more compassionate side.
• Including pictures with family and friends can suggest you’re social and value your relationships. It also keeps people from thinking you’re too into your own looks or only care about how others perceive you, like if you only posted selfies. Moreover, photos with loved ones can make you seem more trustworthy, likeable, and genuine.
• Adelle Kelleher, certified dating & relationship coach, recommends choosing 3-5 recent photos that show your full face and body, and reflects different aspects of your core personality.
• Kelleher also advises against using any heavy face- or body-distorting filters as they show disingenuity and a lack of self-confidence. 

What Your Bio Says

Now, if your photos are the cover, the bio of your dating profile is like the summary on the back of a book. Now, is yours making people want to turn the page and learn more? 

• A well-written bio indicates that someone has put thought into their profile and is serious about finding a meaningful connection. They’re more likely to invest the same effort into a relationship .
• According to relationship coach Matthew Seymour, you don’t have to give every single detail of your life or give a massive checklist for what you need. The best bios are simple, short, sweet, and straight to the point.  
• Casual wording may attract a more laid-back audience, while more formal language might indicate a serious demeanor. Your word choice helps communicate who you are.
• Humor is a great way to break the ice and make your profile memorable. It shows that you don’t take yourself too seriously and are looking to have fun while making meaningful connections.
• Be honest and sincere. A lot of people are turned off by those trying too hard to seem cool or impressive, but don’t overshare either. 
• The idea is just to arouse enough interest for someone to send you a message or a flirt to start the conversation where you can get to know each other better, says Susan Trombetti, expert matchmaker.
• Avoid cliches to stand out from the crowd. Generic statements like “I like movies, music, and hanging out” or “Living life to the fullest” are overused and don’t really tell much about you. Experts suggest being specific about your hobbies and interests to give people a better sense of who you are. 
• Short, vague bios can indicate a lack of effort or interest. Phrases like “Just ask” suggest the person isn’t really committed to finding a match or providing enough information to spark a meaningful conversation .
• Keep it light. Don’t talk about how unlucky in love you’ve been or mention your exes. A positive tone is more likely to attract like-minded individuals who are looking for a joyful connection, says dating coach Shaneeka McCray. 
• Relationship expert Dr. Jess Carbino recommends ending your bio with a question or invitation to encourage potential matches to reach out. For example, “What’s your favorite way to spend a rainy Sunday?” or “Looking for someone to help me find the best coffee in town.

So, what does your dating profile say about you? And more importantly, what do you want it to tell people? If you found this video valuable, let us know with a like, share, and comment! Subscribe to our channel for more insightful content, like “6 Things To Know About Your Crush Before Dating” and “MOST Relationships Today Are TOXIC, Here’s Why.” Thanks for watching!

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