Ever wondered why intelligent people have a hard time dating? Have you met someone so interesting, and ended up being disappointed in the long run? Is it easier for you to fall in love with your heart, but not your mind? Well, don’t worry I’ve got you covered. I have created a list of 7 reasons why intelligent people face difficulties when dating:
1. I spend more time on achievements and goals.
It doesn’t mean that I won’t make time for the person that I am interested in, but it will be less time than what most would like. I like to take two days of the week to go on a date, watch a movie, or do an awesome activity together. But when my date starts demanding more time, that’s when the problems emerge because I let them know what I want in life and what I am doing to get there. In the long run, they end up feeling like I am selfish.
2. Achieving things means feelings of inferiority from the other person.
I like to get things done, and when I set my mind to something I will stop at nothing. The problem is when you are dating someone who doesn’t have any fixed goals or have the same get it done attitude they start to feel inferior and instead of being happy for you they start minimizing your success or playing the “look at all you do, and I haven’t done anything successful” card.
3. Constant negativity is killer.
For me, constant negativity is killer and makes me push away from my date. Now hold on that doesn’t mean I don’t get negative at times or need a little push me up from the person that I like. But I like to spend most of my time focusing on the good. If I fail at something I will get back up and try harder even if I feel bad. But when you are dating someone who is always seeing the bad in everything it’s a total turn off. When that happens, I feel like my date is sucking out my energies.
4. I find joy in having rich interesting conversations.
I’m not Einstein, but I find joy in having rich interesting conversations. In fact, for me, it’s a turn on. I consider myself to be a sapiosexual, which is a person who is attracted to the intelligence of another. When I’m getting to know a potential romantic partner, I pay a lot of attention to what they say and like to speak about. If they constantly are having a small talk or demeaning others I step away. To me, there is nothing more unattractive than a person who spends their time speaking about nonsense.
5. I look for a person who I am growing with.
When dating I look for a person who I am growing with and lets me bloom. What I mean by this, is that when I’m progressing in life, I need someone who wants to also. My date needs to get the big picture. I will not waste my time on anyone who likes conformity and stays there.
6. I like my space.
I like my space, especially when I am relaxing after a long day. But when my date becomes needy and always want to be with me, that’s when problems start to kick in. You see, I enjoy and need my independence. Anyone who is too clingy is a big no for me. In my experience dating, when I want to go out alone or do my own thing, my date starts to question me. Asking me “why didn’t you tell me? I could have gone with you!” or “Are you cheating on me?” I mean like come on, if you can’t give me personally we are done.
7. I don’t mind being alone
I have found happiness and comfort being by myself, so it’s harder for me to form long-lasting romantic relationships. Since I don’t mind being alone I use it as an excuse to push away dates that don’t fit my criteria.
What’s your opinion on this? Do you agree with this article? What are some other reasons why intelligent people have a hard time dating?
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