Romantic Relationships: Should We Care Less So We Can Have More Power?
Aiming to classify who has more power in a romantic relationship is probably a disgraceful thing to do. Romantic relationships should consist of beautiful characteristics: love, friendship, intimacy, cooperation, respect, sharing and so much more. Despite all of this, it’s true: whoever wants less of a relationship has more power.
Power: something that drives mankind to commit remarkable acts, or sinful doings. It takes two to carry out a healthy relationship, but what if one simply doesn’t want to? Suddenly that person has more power.
Let’s look at divorce: the partner with the least desire to remain in the relationship has more power. They have the power to be more likely to terminate the marriage by filing the paperwork. The one who has the easier time walking away is the one in control-they’ve allowed themselves the position in which they’re less susceptible to the manipulation of their partner. Two people are required to enter a relationship, but it only takes one person to exit-and fully demolish what use to be a lovely thing.
“Long-term relationships such as marriages are usually not static” writes Leonard Holmes of menalhealth.com. “ Couples drift apart and are pulled back together. When one partner pulls away, the other is often left feeling exposed and vulnerable. To return to a position of power he or she can pull back too, or alternatively can make an effort to rebuild a closer relationship, despite the fact that this is a riskier move.”
Let’s speak about the initial stages of dating, should we play the card in which we care less and keep our partners in check? Larry Elrod shares in his article: “The Power of the Relationship Lies In Whoever Cares Less” that that’s exactly the dating style we should all embrace. “You have the power because you can be more relaxed about the relationship…in the beginning power is everything, because we realize that if we control who texts who and when, we control the relationship…If you give hot and cold treatment in a relationship then you really do manage to get the best out of it. If you let her get the edge on you, then you become the sap who doesn’t know what time she is coming home…So if you can’t manage to stay ahead of the game and always care less, you will not be as much of a man as you should be. Get yourself on top, know what you want and go for it, ensure that you care less.”
Similar to what Elrod states, if someone rapidly invests too much into the relationship early on, are they only foolishly setting themselves up for a big emotional letdown, especially if things don’t work out? Therefore, in the least malicious way possible, should we all aim to care less so we can have more power?
Xoxo,
Chrissy
http://mentalhealth.about.com/cs/familyresources/a/lessrelshp.htm
http://goarticles.com/article/The-Power-Of-The-Relationship-Lies-In-Whoever-Cares-Less/5228705/
http://www.girlsaskguys.com/relationships/q486939-the-power-of-relationship-lies-with-one-who
http://www.thebreakupblog.com/why-power-in-relationships-is-never-equally-divided/
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