10 Ways To Deal With A Broken Heart
6. Self-reflection
Even if you enjoyed each other’s company, something probably went wrong along the way. Thinking of the reasons why the relationship failed can help you realize mistakes you probably made and help you understand where and why the relationship did not work out. This can also help to avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships.
By this time, it is important to take good care of yourself. Take a look in the mirror and learn more about yourself. You might realize something you never thought possible.
7. Organize your living space
Seeing things the two of you shared will bring forth torrents of tears and painful memories. To remedy this, you can change things up and redecorate your environment. It can be as simple as rearranging the sofa and coffee table to painting the whole room a different color and changing the drapes. Remove painful triggers that remind you of the past. Regardless if your home reminds you of your past lover, it is important to acknowledge change. Embrace it and accept it to learn from it.
8. Go out and have fun
Sometimes, it is easy to forget that there is a whole world outside of our own. While breakups suck, and feels like it’s the end of the world, it is important to not let yourself be eaten by the negativity of it.
Eat meals with your family. Go and hang out with friends, Jog around the block or just meet new people and dogs out in the park. Go out and have fun!
9. Beware of rebound relationships
Rebound simply doesn’t work most of the time. For some people, jumping in on another relationship just shortly after a breakup is simply a way of masking the negative emotions. It may sound nice to be embraced and appreciated by another person, but ultimately, when the relationship fails the amount of negative emotions you have to deal with will double.
It is important to settle things first and remain single to reflect on yourself and the relationship before jumping in on an unsteady relationship. Have fun and mingle but don’t commit too easily.
10. Stand by your decision
Regardless if it was you or them that chose to end the relationship, it is important to stand by the breakup and respect the decision to separate. It is easy to focus on the good side of the relationship and completely dismiss the negative side. However, it is the balance of looking at the relationship with objective eyes that help rationalize the breakup. Cherish the good moments you had with each other. Learn from the painful mistakes you did together. Accept the situation and move forward with your life. Greater things wait for those who strive.
Remember, a broken heart is a painful ordeal that affects us at one time or another. It is perfectly normal to cry, mope and feel depressed about it. However, one must always remember that there is always a rainbow after the rain. That even though it feels like the wold around you is collapsing to destruction, its just a part of life. Each heartbreak is a chance to learn more about yourself and how you deal with it.
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I think most of these suggestions are extremely healthy ways to deal with the shock of being hurt in such a way. Unfortunately, many people dwell and dwell and dwell on what has happened, allowing it to stew and affect their daily lives.There is the whole idea that we become what we think of ourselves, that if we are told something or say something enough, we begin to embody those qualities. The idea of allowing oneself to go through the grieving of being hurt in order to become healthy both mentally and emotionally is an idea that needs to be pushed forward into society more.
Hi Michelle! Indeed, the human tendency to dwell on negative experiences is a common one that is both toxic and dangerous. That is why it is important to learn a couple of coping skills when it all becomes too much, more so when dealing with something emotionally scarring such as a heartbreak. 🙂
I think these aspects are all positive for someone with a broken heart, but I also feel like some of these aspects seem hard for the broken hearted to all complete wholely. However, I guess that Is on of the things that really accompanies life, the unknown, and fate, if it really does have hand in all of this. I have struggled constantly with way number nine, I have found in the past it was easier to quickly move on and forget about the ex that had broken up with or had left. I have now realized that this is no strategy to mend a broken heart because you have to face the pain eventually. I also felt talking with others instead of keeping stuff to yourself is very positive for the broken hearted. Along with reflecting on past relationships and experiences to see all of the positivity and negativity that accompanied these relationships. I feel these people will become memories but the feelings had will remain amd people need to learn to deal with these life aspects.
Hi Nikki! I’m glad you found the article helpful. Indeed, moving on from a broken heart will always be difficult, but therein lies the strength of each individual. Some people can move on faster than others and that’s okay. Dealing with something emotionally scarring is a process not many people go through in a healthy way. That is why its important to help each other. 🙂