The Psychological Benefits of Sex Toys

Is your sex life feeling drab and dull? Or maybe what happens behind closed doors is hot and heavy but you just can’t seem to “cross the finish line.”

Research shows that 81 percent of women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. There must be foreplay and mental stimulation involved for her to climax.

Similarly, men may have trouble getting or staying aroused. The reasons for these sexual interruptions may be caused by your psychological wellbeing or because of a lack of connection to your partner.

Being disappointed with your sex life can be incredibly frustrating. That’s where sex toys come in!

Your sex life should never be boring – nor should it be without orgasm! Using sex toys can help relieve both of those problems, plus benefit your mental health in ways you never thought possible.

Here are the 6 psychological benefits of using toys in the bedroom.

1. It Promotes Healthy Communication 

When you use a sex toy with a partner, it helps improve your communication. You need to express to your spouse what feels good, how you like to be touched, and what way you like the toy to be used.

Not only is open communication the cornerstone of all healthy relationships, but it can also benefit your sex life.

Research indicates that sexual communication is positively correlated with sexual satisfaction and relationship quality.

The study goes on to reveal that sexual communication between partners often resulted in increased orgasm frequency in females and greater overall sexual satisfaction for both partners.

2. Relieves Stress and Anxiety

Stress and anxiety can negatively affect your libido and make sex seem less appealing.

When you’re not having sex with your partner regularly, trouble soon follows. Couples who do not have sex are more likely to become bored with their relationship, experience a lack of trust, and have lower self-esteem.

However, sex toys can remedy this unfortunate situation. The oxytocin your body releases during sexual activity can help reduce stress and increase your body’s wellbeing.

3. You Understand Your Body better

When you use a sex toy, solo or with a partner, you get to know your body on a deeper level. You discover new turn-ons and erogenous zones.

The more connected you are with your likes and dislikes in the bedroom, the better you will feel about yourself.

Many women who have never had an orgasm in the past have had success with vibrators. Not only does experimenting with toys mean more pleasure for you, but it also means it will be easier to communicate and connect with your spouse between the sheets.

4. Connects Partners

Your sex life is essential for a happy relationship. One interesting study found that increasing your sexual activity from once a month to once a week increases happiness levels by the same ratio getting paid an extra $50,000 a year would.

You can benefit psychologically from adding a toy into your sex life simply from the way it connects you and your spouse. When you orgasm, your body releases a hormone called oxytocin.

Sometimes called “The Love Drug” or “The Cuddle Hormone”, oxytocin has been proven to heighten emotional intimacy between partners and improve trust.

5. Removes Judgements

Part of the reason we have hang-ups about sex is due to the psychological side of intimacy. Perhaps we were raised in a household that thought of sex as wrong or dirty.

We may even have been with partners in the past who have judged us for our kinks, the time it takes us to climax, or other sexual preferences.

When you bring a toy into your sex life, you learn to make sex fun again. This can remove judgments and hang-ups that we carry from our upbringing or past relationships that can otherwise put a damper on intimacy.

6. Improves Self-Esteem

When you have difficulty orgasming during intercourse, it can do a number on your self-esteem. It might make you feel embarrassed or like you are different somehow.

While this couldn’t be further from the truth, using a sex toy can definitely help. Bringing a toy into your sex life or solo time can also make you feel sexier, which makes you more confident in the bedroom.

Many women also find it easier to climax when pairing a toy with intercourse.

When you are eager to have sex with your partner, perhaps being enticed by a new battery-operated friend, might actually enhance your self-image.

Studies show that women who had a positive view of themselves sexually were easier to arouse and reported having more sex and higher levels of passion.

There is no reason to fear a sex toy! Men and women can benefit from using toys because it connects partners, relieves stress, increases mental health, and promotes wellbeing. 

Bringing toys into the bedroom can give your sex life – and confidence – the boost it needs!

Author Bio:

Sylvia Smith is a writer who likes to write about relationships and how couples can revitalize their love lives in and out of the bedroom. She is currently associated with Marriage.com. She is a big believer in living consciously and encourages couples to adopt its principles in their relationships. By taking purposeful and intentional action,  Sylvia feels any relationship or marriage can be transformed and truly enjoyed.