Do you sometimes wish you could make a love potion or a magic spell to make someone instantly like you? Waiting for them to notice you while fantasizing about them alone in your room can be so frustrating!
Luckily, you don’t have to leave just everything to chance. Maybe you can’t put thoughts into their head, but you can try out some psychological tips and tricks that were proven to be effective when it comes to attraction.
Without further ado, here are 6 attractive habits to attract your crush!
1. Have some jokes on you
Some find humor to be the most important trait in a romantic relationship. Research has also shown that people that have a good sense of humor are perceived as more attractive than people who are intelligent! While sharing a good laugh with somebody, you’re actually creating a bond and connection between you.
A good sense of humor is sexually attractive as it expresses wisdom, creativity and other positive traits. It can also be flirty and playful if used well, and not over the top.
By cracking a joke you could break the tension, create a positive and vibrant atmosphere, appear confident, and making your crush laugh could definitely give you some bonus points!
2. Show interest in what they like
Studies have shown that people LOVE talking about themselves – their interests, hobbies, thoughts… It makes them feel happy and content, and they especially like it when others show interest in what they have to say.
So ask your crush those questions! Ask them about the band on their T-shirt, and if they could send you some songs to listen to. Ask them about their favorite sport, and if they cheer for some club. Ask them about their thoughts on the recent news story.
While listening, nod your head to show you’re listening, repeat some of the words they said, ask them to clarify if you don’t understand what they mean, and try to remember the little details for future conversations. This way, they will know they have your full attention.
The more you ask, and the more you show you’re actually interested in what they’re saying, the more they will be drawn towards you.
3. Take them out to see a scary movie
Have you ever watched a movie where a couple on a date went to see a horror movie? Well, whoever of the two planned the date was a real psychologist at heart!
Our brain is processing intense emotions, like fear and excitement, on a cognitive level, and our bodies respond on a physiological level. When you watch a scary movie, due to all the excitement your mind and body are feeling, that movie creates a strong emotional experience. But somewhere between eating popcorn and getting scared of jump scares, our mind can get things kind of mixed up. According to Donald Dutton’s and Arthur Aron’s study from 1974, this is called the “misattribution of arousal.”
What happens is that your mind takes in signals from your body – increased heart rate, faster breathing, sweating, blushing… – and instead of connecting it to the movie, it connects it with attraction!
So, if you took your crush out to see a horror movie, their mind and body might make them feel like they’re attracted to you!
4. Mimic their body language
Have you ever heard of the term “mirroring behavior”?
It doesn’t have anything to do with an actual mirror! It is a term often used in social psychology, and it means to match your body language to the other person.
Also known as the chameleon effect, this psychological trick has been proven to increase the liking of people in an interaction – basically, your crush could like you more if you mirror their behavior!
To match their body language (mirror), first pay attention to their non verbal cues. Do they run their fingers through their hair often? Do they keep their arms crossed? Are they smiling?
And then – you just repeat it! Wait for a few seconds and smile back, cross your arms too, touch your hair back. But it’s important to remember that you shouldn’t overdo it! The goal is to make it subtle to be successful!
5. Surprise them with a small act of kindness
Small acts of kindness are one of the best ways to tell someone you care about them, without directly telling them.
With this, you can show them that you listen to them, that you’re eager to know what they like, and that you want to make them happy.
Maybe you remembered their favorite chocolate and brought it for them out of the blue? Maybe you know their favorite music genre so you shared a customized playlist with them? Or you made them a nice drawing, for no apparent reason?
They will surely appreciate those nice and simple things. Of course, you don’t want to overdo it – getting them gifts and favors every other day, or buying expensive things, could scare them away! Find a balance between too few and too many, and show them how much you care!
6. Make it known you’re available
Of course, nobody won’t even think of approaching you if they are unsure if you’re even available. So, while trying out other tricks, make it known that you’re single, and there’s nobody here to compete with them, if they ever decide to (finally) take you out on a date.
You don’t want to say it straightforwardly: “Hey, I’m single!”. Instead, try to wrap it up as a joke, for example saying “I’ll be taking myself for a Valentine’s day dinner this year! 😉 ”.
And even better if you say it while giving them a small glance!
What do you think about these tips? Do you think they could work?
If so, feel free to try them out and let us know how it went!
Of course, there is no magic spell or potion to make someone like you instantly. It depends on many aspects, like the person’s taste, sexuallity, priorities… But still, by being a nice, kind and confident person, together with trying out some of these small psychological tricks, you can increase your chances! Good luck!
Thank you for reading!
Written by: Stela Košić
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