Have you ever had a crush on someone and wondered if the feelings were mutual? Crushing on someone is an exhilarating experience, but it can also be terrifying. The mix of emotions can leave you longing for clarity and searching for signs that your crush feels the same way. After all, the hope of mutual attraction can fuel dreams of a potential relationship.
Fortunately, there are several signs that can indicate you’re both crushing on each other, according to psychology experts. With that said, let’s delve deeper into the tell-tale clues that will hopefully help us better navigate the exciting yet sometimes puzzling world of attraction and romantic interest.
According to Vanessa Van Edwards, communications expert and founder of The Science of People, subconscious mirroring is a strong indicator of attraction. So next time you talk to that special someone, check to see if you’re both mimicking each other’s gestures, posture, speech patterns, and other manerisms. This is a positive sign that you’re both romantically interested in one another.
Playful Teasing & Banter
Flirting is a playful way of expressing interest and attraction, and when both parties are crushing on each other, you may notice subtle yet intentional flirting behaviors. The most common example of this is playful teasing, which is often a way for us to test the waters with someone, create a light hearted connection, or relieve romantic tension, says social scientist Dr. Jeremy E. Sherman. And when you’re crushing on someone, you’re likely to find each other’s jokes and banter particularly amusing. So if you notice a continuous exchange of smiles, giggles, and witty comebacks, it’s a strong indication that there’s mutual chemistry and attraction.
Increased Physical Contact
According to clinical psychologist Dr. Kristina Hallett, physical contact is an intimate form of connection that signifies a desire for closeness and can be a potent sign that the attraction is mutual. And two individuals who are crushing on each other often seek ways to break the touch barrier and initiate physical contact, even in subtle ways. It can be a gentle touch on the arm, an accidental brush of hands, or other simple, subtle excuses to get closer. What matters is that, if you’re crushing on each other, you and those around you will begin to notice an exchange of more frequent and more casual touches between you and that special someone.
Do you find yourselves constantly reaching out to each other, be it through text messages, phone calls, or social media? Frequent and enthusiastic communication outside of regular encounters is another good sign that you’re crushing on each other, says Dr. Hallet, as it suggests a strong desire to stay connected and share your lives. When you both find reasons to keep the conversation going, often spend hours talking to each other, and are usually reluctant to say goodbye, then it’s a promising sign that your crush is mutual.
Genuine Interest & Active Listening
Aside from how frequently you talk to one another, the quality of your conversations also matter. Because when you’re crushing on someone, their words and experiences become captivating to you. If your crush exhibits genuine interest in your life, actively listens, remembers details about your conversations, and asks follow-up questions, it’s a strong indication that they are not only interested but also care about you on a deeper level. According to the experts from Regain, this is because mutual attraction often leads to a desire for emotional connection and understanding.
Seeking Opportunities for Quality Time
Finally, Dr. Hallet says that actively seeking opportunities to be in each other’s company demonstrates a genuine interest in getting to know one another better. So if you and your crush frequently find ways to spend time together, whether it’s joining the same social gatherings, attending events together, or simply hanging out one-on-one, it’s a sign that there’s a desire to deepen your connection.
Crushing on someone can be both exciting and nerve-wracking, but recognizing the signs of mutual attraction can help alleviate some of the uncertainty. Don’t be afraid to take that leap of faith when the moment feels right.