Hey there, Psych2goers! If you’ve clicked on this link, then you’ve probably got your eye on someone special. And like most of us, you’ve probably daydreamed about what it would be like to have your crush confess their feelings to you and sweep you off your feet, right?
Well, what if the confession never comes? But not because they don’t have any feelings for you, but rather, because much like you, they’re too shy or too afraid to just come right out and say it.
Luckily for us, with psychology, understanding how other people really feel is now easier than we think. With that said, here are 6 subtle signs your crush wants you to notice them:
1. They’re constantly close by.
If you notice that your crush is always around you — frequenting your favorite hang out spots or attending all the same social events as you — it might be because they’re romantically interested in you and trying to get your attention. According to dating and communication coach Sarah Curnoles, “If someone is flirting with you, you’ll notice they find a way to be in your eye line or closer to you in proximity, even if they don’t always approach you.”
2. They get physical with you.
Another subtle sign that your crush wants you to notice them is if they constantly look for excuses to touch you. Whether it’s under the guise of a playful nudge, a “friendly” hug, a brush of your hands, or even just sitting really close to you all the time, the fact that they’re comfortable enough to get touchy with you is a good sign that they want you to notice them. According to certified relationship coach Dr. Susan Golicic, these are all signs that “Their body is giving you attention, even if their brain is having trouble engaging because of nervousness.”
3. They listen to you intently.
Think back to your last few conversations with your crush. Did you feel that they were attentively and actively listening to you? Were they nodding along, maintaining eye contact, and asking follow-up questions? Did they verbally or non-verbally encourage you to tell them more? Aside from just being a good listener, one probable reason for this is that your crush may be subtly trying to flirt with you and signal their romantic interest in you. “Listening is very important,” says flirting coach and author of ‘The Secret Rules of Flirting’ Fran Greene. “Because if somebody is just doing all the talking, they’re not flirting. They’re just putting on a show. So pay attention to those who listen to you intently.”
4. They bring you into their friend group.
Has your crush introduced you to their friend or invited you to come hang out with them a lot? While it’s easy to write off as them just being friendly with you, it could also be a subtle sign that they want you to notice them, especially if your crush is more of the shy type. According to dating and relationship expert Callisto Adams, it’s likely that they feel more comfortable having their friends around before making a move on you. It could also be that they want you in their social circle so they can spend more time with you and you two can get to know each other better.
5. They remember things about you.
Remembering little details is a sign of attentiveness, and when someone is attracted to you, they are more likely not only to listen to you intently but to remember things about you as well. According to an article by the Power of Positivity, a psychology-based inspirational lifestyle & wellness blog, “When someone is interested in you, they’ll remember many things you say. Your interests will be vital to them, and they might even bring up comments you said a while before.” So if your crush keeps referencing things you told them before or coming up with inside jokes just for the two of you, they’re subtly trying to catch your attention.
6. They bring up shared interests.
Similar to the last point, when your crush wants to engage with you more, they’ll probably try to play up your similarities and overlapping interests as much as possible. Flirting with your crush, flirting coach Fran Greene explains, “is like a good tennis match…there’s a lot of back and forth.” So whether it’s a shared experience like growing up in the same city, a close mutual friend of yours, or a hobby you’re both passionate about, someone interested in you will use just about any opportunity they have to talk to you more and make a connection with you.
So, do you relate to any of the things we’ve mentioned here? Did this video help you catch all the subtle signs that your crush wants you to notice them?
The trouble with flirting and pursuing someone is that, because most people aren’t comfortable with conveying their romantic interest directly, a lot of it can get lost in translation. But as long as you know how to read the signals and subtle hints they’re giving you, then you can already get a better sense of their deeper feelings.
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- Adams, C. (31 May 2022). “What does it mean when a guy introduces you to his friends?” He Texted. Retrieved from https://hetexted.com/when-a-guy-introduces-you-to-his-friends/
- Barkley, S. (28 Jan 2022). “20 Subtle Hints That Reveal Someone is Interested in Romance.” Power of Positivity. Retrieved from https://www.powerofpositivity.com/subtle-hints-reveal-romance/
- Wilson, L. (12 Dec 2022). “12 Subtle Signs Your Crush Is Into You.” Medium. Retrieved from https://medium.com/life-mission/12-subtle-signs-your-crush-is-into-you-143318c6772c