6 Tips to Attract Your Crush (For Introverts)
Hey, Psych2goers!
We are back with an article for the introverts out there!
Do you currently have a crush on someone and don’t know how to move things further?
Are they extroverted or introverted, like you?
As a person who values and enjoys personal space, you may be finding it difficult to create opportunities to interact with them.
Maybe you’ve tried catching their attention, engaging them in conversation, and ended up not knowing what to do next.
Don’t worry! We got you.
It takes a lot of willpower to attract someone you like. Remember that it’s normal to be anxious and afraid of rejection. Everyone goes through that!
So fill yourself with determination and get ready, because here are 6 tips that will get your crush to finally notice you.
Hope you learn a lot!
FRIENDLY DISCLAIMER: This video is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. It is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. Please don’t forget to listen to your intuition to determine what is best for you. Good luck!
1. Identify mutual interests and talk about them.
If you’re not much of a talker, this may be your first hurdle.
You may find it awkward to start conversations, but talking really allows you to learn things about your crush!
Try to ask questions and listen well.
What do they like that you also like?
Are they also a fan of that TV show you’re bingeing? Do they play League of Legends? Are they a die-hard fan of Nirvana?
Once you slowly get a peek at their world and your mutual interests, you get a lot of opportunities to talk about them!
Sometimes, it won’t even feel like a struggle, because you’re not forcing it to happen.
Let good times happen naturally. Without a doubt, they’re going to have fun and feel closer to you during the moment.
2. Interact with them on social media.
Do you have more confidence on the internet?
It’s time to use that to your advantage!
The amount of time your crush spends on Discord, Instagram, or other sites provides a lot of free opportunities to talk.
And if you don’t know how to approach them first, think about step one.
Remember your mutual interests? That’s the key!
You can start by sending them a meme or a post related to something you both like. If it goes well, they’ll be entertained and it will lead to more conversations. If it doesn’t go that well, there’s not much to lose. You can just send more!
There are plenty of chances to grow closer with your crush on social media so don’t give up! You can do it.
3. Do activities you’re both interested in.
Did they mention they like gaming? What are you waiting for? Go play with them!
By this stage, your crush likely already knows who you are and if they’re open to hanging out, they’re probably comfortable with your presence and personality.
Going out to cafes, arcades, and bookstores are only some of the things you can do together. The sky is the limit so it’s time to start brainstorming.
What would be a fun activity to do with them and maybe some friends?
4. Be around them more.
Sometimes, even your mere presence is enough.
Being around them can develop positive feelings! Especially if you become a part of their friend group.
They would most likely grow accustomed to your presence and think of you as someone important in their life.
So if you can do this by joining the same clubs, attending get-togethers, or singing with them at karaoke, do it! Only as long as you’re willing to, of course.
Remember to frequently give yourself mental pats on the back.
As an introvert, it’s not easy to go out of your way to make someone like you. Sometimes, it even leads you to do things out of your comfort zone, which leads us to the next point.
5. Step out of your comfort zone every once in a while.
Ah, yes, the dreaded event.
Unfortunately, liking someone can lead you to a lot of awkward and unfamiliar events, especially if your crush is an extrovert!
You may find yourself going to parties, socializing, and doing stuff you don’t even do normally just to spend more time with them.
But it’s good to step out of your shell once in a while, just remember to set your limits.
Try not to do things you’re super uncomfortable with. Instead, try ones that are a little challenging, but manageable.
Your crush will likely notice your efforts for them and appreciate it. Win!
6. Open up to them.
Are you willing to be vulnerable to your crush?
According to Wendy Rose Gould, vulnerability is key to fostering a deeper relationship with somebody.
It’s completely normal to guard your emotions and not be so open.
As an introvert, you’re probably even used to dealing with things alone, but to truly take things further with your crush, you have to let them in, even if it’s just a bit.
The willingness to share a part of your story shows that you trust them, and what comes later is a deeper understanding between the both of you.
It’s encouraged to do this only when you’re truly comfortable with your crush. It’s a huge step, and it shows that what you feel for them is authentic.
SHARE YOUR THOUGHTS
As an introvert, what makes it difficult to catch your crush’s attention?
Having a crush may give you a lot of emotions all at once. Whatever the outcome is, if you did your best, take pride in it!
Do you think this article helped?
Are you now ready to pull the moves on your crush?
Do you have any additional tips for all the introverts out there?
Please share your thoughts in the comment section below. We appreciate reading your experiences and receiving feedback.
Thank you so much for reading. See you next time!
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I really enjoy these tips, though I must warn any readers that this’ll be a very gradual process. This is to make a friendship thrive before activating any relationship of any sort, and for introverts, it’ll be harder to start right at the first step. My one question is: how should we start a meaningful conversation? Otherwise, I really appreciate all of these tips and with come back to them once I learn how to start a good conversation, since I struggle being a life-long introvert and all. Plus, the environment isn’t the best for long-lived conversations since I’m with them only at karate class, and I don’t know if they’re on social media or not. Thank you so much if you’ve read this far, and have a great day or night. <3
Hello, Anya! ✨ Thank you so much for leaving a comment about your own experience and story! It’s very true. Communicating and building a relationship with someone can sometimes be very gradual, especially when you’re highly introverted. That’s totally okay! You may have your fair share of frustrations about your challenges, but the greatest thing about this is that you’re recognizing your own struggles and finding ways to better them.
If you’re only with them at karate class and are wondering how to spark interaction, why not start with other people? People naturally flock in groups because it makes them feel included, so it may help to consider talking to someone else you find less daunting. Who do they talk to? Perhaps it can help to talk to those people as well. Once you get a grasp of who the people around you are and what they’re like, you can get an idea of which topics to talk about and bring up. When the opening comes when you can talk to them, try to take it! If you miss the chance, don’t beat yourself up. There will always be a next time.
If you do get a chance to talk to them, you can ask them about familiar topics such as why they started karate, how long they’ve been doing it, whether it’s their passion, etc. If you run out of ideas, you can always ask them what they’re interested in and if something sticks with you, you now have another topic to talk about!
Also, if you want to ask for their social media but don’t want to make it too obvious, you can try asking for other people’s social media, too (and ask for other people’s social media first before theirs)! That way, it doesn’t seem like you’re only out for their information alone. Remember, there isn’t a surefire way to start a meaningful conversation, it just happens as the communication flows. However, meaningful conversations don’t happen without starting a conversation at all. Take it at your own pace, and take little risks every once in a while. 💛
Hope this helped! Looking forward to any updates. 🌠