7 Signs You’re in a Fantasy Bond, Not Love

Ever felt like you’re living in a dream when you’re with someone you really like? It’s like everything around you fades away, and it’s just the two of you against the world. But what if that dream isn’t quite what it seems? 

Sometimes, what we think is love might actually be something else entirely. It’s called a fantasy bond, and it’s more common than you might think. So, how can you tell if you’re caught in the web of a fantasy bond rather than experiencing genuine love? Let’s dive in:

You Fall in Love With Potential, Not People

Are you a hopeless romantic who can easily fall in love with strangers? Ever found yourself falling head over heels for someone’s potential rather than who they truly are? It’s easy to get caught up in imagining the person they could become, rather than accepting them for who they are in the present. But ask yourself, how well do you actually know this person? In a fantasy bond, it’s common to idealize your partner and project your own fantasies onto them. But true love involves accepting your partner for who they are, rather than trying to mold them into your idealized image.

You Ignore Red Flags

Do you put your partner on a pedestal, thinking they’re flawless and perfect in every way? It’s natural to admire and appreciate your significant other, but when you start seeing them through rose-colored glasses all the time, it could be a sign of a fantasy bond. For example, you find yourself making excuses for your partner’s behavior, even when it’s clearly not okay. You might overlook red flags because you’re so focused on the idea of them being your perfect match. Real love involves accepting each other’s flaws and imperfections, not pretending they don’t exist.

You Use Them to Escape Reality

Do you find yourself constantly running to your crush or partner whenever something goes wrong in your life? Do you turn to them to distract you from it instead of dealing with your problems head-on? Yes, seeking comfort and support from someone you love is natural, but relying solely on them to escape from reality is a definite sign of a fantasy bond, not true love. In a fantasy bond, you cling to the relationship for stability and avoid dealing with negative emotions by seeking refuge in romantic intensity and the euphoria of being “in love”.

You Avoid Conflict at All Costs

Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but in a fantasy bond, it’s often avoided at all costs. There aren’t any difficult conversations or disagreements because it would disrupt the fantasy of a perfect romance. So instead of being honest and open with one another when something’s wrong, you tiptoe around the issue, sweep it under the rug, and just pretend everything’s okay. But healthy relationships thrive on honest and constructive communication. Rather than avoiding conflict out of fear or discomfort, it’s a chance to strengthen your relationship and build a stronger foundation of trust and understanding.

There’s No Real Intimacy

Okay, let’s get real for a minute. When was the last time you had a heartfelt conversation with this person? If it’s been a good long while (or maybe even never), it might be because there’s no real intimacy in your relationship. In a fantasy bond, superficial gestures and surface-level interactions often replace meaningful emotional connection. Instead of allowing yourself to be vulnerable and authentic, you may retreat into a fantasy world where emotions are kept at arm’s length. It’s like you’re going through the motions of a relationship without truly connecting on a deeper level. 

There’s No Sacrifice or Compromise

Healthy relationships require sacrifice and compromise from both parties. But in a fantasy bond, there’s often a lack of willingness to make sacrifices or compromises for the sake of the relationship. So ask yourself honestly: are you open to making compromises to strengthen your relationship, or are you only concerned about getting what you want? When was the last time one of you sacrificed something to accommodate the other? 

You Feel An Empty Happiness

Imagine your relationship as a plant. Just as it needs water, sunlight, and space to thrive, a healthy relationship requires growth and genuine connection. But in a fantasy bond, it’s more about comfort and stability than mutual growth. You might look at your relationship from the outside and see smiles and laughter, but deep down, there’s a sense of emptiness. It’s like you’re living in a beautiful fantasy world, but inside, you know something is missing. You might realize that you and your partner aren’t really connecting.  It’s like watering a plastic plant – no matter how much you pour into it, it won’t grow. 

So, what are your thoughts on this video? Did it help you understand the difference between being in love versus living in a fantasy? Breaking free from a fantasy bond can be challenging, but recognizing the signs is the first step towards waking up from the fantasy and seeking something real.