7 Things NOT To Do Around Your Crush

So, you have a crush on someone and you’re trying to figure out how not to act like an idiot around them? Yeah, we’ve all been there before. We know what that’s like, how rough it can be out there. Even the most cool, calm, and collected of us have probably found themselves awkward and speechless around someone they like sometimes, unsure of what to do.

Because the thing about having a crush is that even though it can be fun and exhilarating, when we find someone special who makes our breath catch and sends a hundred butterflies fluttering in our chests, it can also be a terrifying and painfully awkward experience.

So if you’ve been struggling to talk to your crush, terrified you’re going to do something wrong and embarrass yourself in front of them, then worry not. We’re here to tell you all the things you should avoid doing around your crush, and after that, you should be fine. With that said, here are 7 things you should definitely NOT do around your crush:

1. Come on too strong

First of all, there’s nothing wrong with being straightforward. And if you’re one of those rare few who are actually brave enough to actually confess to their crush how they really feel, then that’s great. Kudos to you! With that said however, there is a difference between being forthcoming and being too forceful. The last thing you want to do is scare your crush off or make them uncomfortable by coming on too strong (e.g., constantly fawning over them, stalking them wherever they go, triple texting them all the time and asking why they don’t reply, and so on). Doing things like this can be an instant turn-off because of how needy and pushy it makes you look, so you’re better off just playing it cool.

2. Fantasize about your future together

Yeah, remember what we said about not coming on too strong? This definitely falls under that category. Saying anything along the lines of, “Oh, I can’t wait for you to meet my family, they’re going to love you!” or “You’re going to be my future wife/husband, just you wait” isn’t as smooth of a pick up line as you might think. To tell you the truth, it’s actually kind of creepy if you say it to someone you’re not even in a committed relationship with. Fantasizing about an imagined future with your crush is sweet and all, but it’s something you’re better off keeping to yourself. Otherwise, it comes across as incredibly obsessive and presumptuous. 

3. Send mixed signals

While playing it cool is better than coming off too strong, you want to be careful not to send your crush any mixed signals either. Because if one minute you’re having a really good time talking to them, and the next time you see them you act like they don’t even exist, then how are they even supposed to feel? Sending mixed signals like this makes them think that you don’t care about their feelings and that this is all just a big game to you. 

4. Act like you don’t care

Arguably the only thing worse than sending your crush mixed signals is acting like you don’t care about them at all, to the point where you might even start to come off as rude and inconsiderate. Remember, this isn’t kindergarten anymore; you don’t have to pull someone’s pigtails or push them on the playground just because you like them. Hiding the way you feel is one thing, but to ignore, criticize, or disrespect someone just because you can’t deal with your feelings for them is completely unacceptable. Be careful you don’t cross the line from playful, teasing banter to actually hurting their feelings. 

5. Pretend to be someone you’re not

Now, whether we like to admit it or not, the truth is, most of us have probably tried to change a few things about ourselves to impress our crush and get them to like us. And hey, that’s okay! It’s only natural that you’d want to make a good impression on someone you feel attracted to. The problem, however, lies in trying too hard to the point that we start pretending to be someone we’re not! And as cheesy and cliche as it might sound, there’s no denying that if you really wanted your crush to like you, then you should just be yourself and let them get to know the real you. 

6. Act jealous or possessive

Have you ever acted jealous towards the other people your crush seems to spend a lot of time with? Or dislike certain people they seem to be especially friendly with? While it’s only natural to feel a bit jealous of those people your crush seems to be close to, especially if you feel there might be something there, the truth is, you don’t really have any right to act possessive over your crush because of it. Think about it: how would you feel if someone liked you and then just suddenly started acting jealous of all your friends and telling you you spend too much time with them? It’s a huge turn-off, right? Because it makes them come off as insecure, controlling, and needy.

7. Overthink everything

Finally, but perhaps most importantly, one of the biggest ways we ruin our own chances with our crush is by overthinking every little thing we do around them. We get so lost in our own head sometimes, agonizing over every tiny detail — from the way we look, to the way we talk, to the way we come across — that every interaction with them feels like a needlessly complicated emotional rollercoaster. Worst of all, they probably didn’t even notice or don’t even care about any of that stuff you’re overthinking about, so what’s the point? Chill out, take a breath, and relax; it’ll help you be more confident around your crush and let them get to know the real you.

So, do you relate to any of the things we’ve enumerated here? Have you ever done any of these 7 things you shouldn’t do around your crush? Well, even if you answered yes, that’s okay. At least you know better now. And hey, there’s nothing to be embarrassed about! We all act a little silly and tongue-tied  around people we like sometimes, we’ve been there! What matters most is that you stay true to yourself and just take things slow. Then, when you’re confident enough, shoot your shot and see what happens. We’ll be rooting for you.