Be With Someone Who Does These 6 Things

“Should I be with this person?” is an important question need to ask ourselves before pursuing a romantic relationship with someone. And since you clicked this video, it’s probably something that’s been on your mind lately, too.

And according to psychotherapist Annie Wright, “they say you’ll know when you know” isn’t always true, either. In fact, it’s likely that you’ll experience moments of ambivalence, boredom, and even doubt at some point in a relationship even if you’re already with the right person. So what are some important things you’ll want to look for in a partner? Well, according to experts, you should be with someone who does these 6 things:

1. Stays true to their word

In the early stages of a relationship, it’s actually not that uncommon to exaggerate our positive qualities and want to present ourselves in the best possible light. But according to relationship coach Saudia Twine, when all is said and done, you’ll want to be with someone who stays true to their word and has integrity. They don’t have to be perfect, says Twine, but it’s important that they uphold the same values as you and that their actions align with their words.

2. Values your presence

According to therapist Tiana Leeds, it’s important that you be with someone who values your presence and shows you by putting in the effort to listen and be there for you. Does your partner ask how your day was and listen attentively? Do they pay attention to what you have to say and value your opinions? Do they put down their phone when talking to you or make you a priority in their life? All of these are important signs that this person genuinely cares about you and isn’t just interested in what you can do for them or how the relationship serves them.

3. Allows you time apart

Another important green flag to look out for is if your partner is comfortable with you spending time apart. Allowing you both to maintain your independence and draw healthy boundaries between the two of you is crucial, says therapist Emily Griffin, because it shows that they are secure in your relationship and genuinely want what’s best for you. Understanding that there are certain aspects of your life you can and should keep to yourselves – like having your own hobbies, passions, and careers – shows emotional maturity and allows you to maintain your own identities and gain a sense of self-worth outside of your relationship.

4. Accepts you wholeheartedly

Marriage therapist Virginia Williamson says that one of the most important criteria in assessing whether your partner is right for you is if you feel comfortable around them. So, do you feel that you can open up to this person about anything and they wouldn’t judge you? Do you think they really know you, and if not, do you even want them to? These are all important questions to ask ourselves to determine if we’re with the right person. Similarly, psychologist Barbara Santini says that being able to express ourselves freely and being accepted for that is integral to any happy and healthy relationship.

5. Opens up to you

Much like our earlier point, acceptance and disclosure need to go both ways for a relationship to succeed, says certified relationship coach Kelly Gonsalves. So it’s important that your partner opens up to you, too. According to Gonsalves, being able to have deep conversations with one another about your innermost thoughts and feelings is a good indicator of compatibility, trust, and emotional intimacy. Being with someone who’s comfortable talking about their feelings also makes it easier for you to resolve conflicts constructively and communicate openly.

6. Celebrates your success

Much like friendships, relationships cannot thrive when there is rivalry and resentment. So pay close attention to how your partner reacts when you tell them about your success, says relationship expert Pippa Murphy. Do they celebrate and support you unconditionally? Or does it make them feel jealous and they try to put you down? Being with someone who celebrates our success is important for our self-esteem, encourages our personal growth, and helps bring out the best in us.

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Whatever it is you may be looking for in a partner, the bottom line is you should be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, who values the relationship and is willing to put in the effort, and who you enjoy spending time with.

So, what are your thoughts on this video? Do you agree with these points? Let us know in the comments down below what are some other important things you look for in a partner.

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