Help! How Do I Know if They Like Me Back?

Hey, Psych2Goers! I think Disney’s Hercules put it best. “People always do crazy things, when they’re in love,” but they didn’t say ANYTHING about the crazy things we do to figure out if someone likes us back! I can’t even count the number of times I “just happened to be in the area” to try to arrange an oh-so-casual run in. (Spoiler Alert: it literally never worked.) Today, we’re going to take a look at Tim and Nina who both have a crush on each other, but neither of them is sure if the other likes them back. Here are 5 signs they like you back!

Side note: This article is for educational purposes and is based on personal opinions. This video is not a substitute for professional advice, but general guidance. We advise you to always listen to your intuition and always do what is right for you.

#1: They talk to you all of the time!

Tim and Nina met at work. Ironically, they were placed on the same team and were seated right next to each other. As time went on, they would talk about normal work things. When is that meeting again? Can you forward me that e-mail from the boss? After a while, their conversation expanded to their weekend plans, likes and dislikes, and hobbies. A little after that, they exchanged numbers and began texting before and after work. It soon got to the point where they were constantly in contact. If one

PAUSE! Think about you and your coworkers or classmates. Do you talk to any of them from the moment you wake up until you fall asleep? This is a clear sign that there is more to Tim and Nina’s relationship than just coworkers or even friends. That might be a sign that they like you back.

#2: Just like The Chainsmokers, they want to be “closer”.

Like we said Tim and Nina are aaalways together. When they’re hanging out off the clock, they like to watch anime and action movies. Martial arts flicks are their favorite! Whenever they’re watching something, Nina and Time are always sitting close, never touching, but they’re never more than a foot away from each other. At work, they respect each other’s personal space, but they will sit next to each other in meetings and take their breaks together.

Pause! Narrator, here. Body language is super important. When we’re near someone we like, you can tell in the body language. Signs we like the other person can be being close to the person, making an excuse to make physical contact, mirroring their body language, and opening their body towards you. Nina and Tim are always showing these signs, so I think there’s a good chance they like each other. Now, back to the story!

#3: They find ways to sneak quick fixes in without you noticing.

Whenever Tim and Nina take a break at work, they like to walk around a lake near their office to get some movement going after sitting all day. One day, in particular, it was really hot outside, and Nina started sweating. Any time she felt like she was sweating enough for Tim to notice, she’d make some excuse to turn her face away for a quick swipe with her shirt sleeve. Whenever Tim happened to glance away, that was another opportunity to freshen her face. She never wanted Tim to see her when she wasn’t her best for fear that he may be dissuaded from asking her out.

Hi. Me again. I’m someone who believes looks aren’t everything. If you’re like me, you might be wondering why Nina and Tim seem obsessed with looking perfect all of the time. This isn’t the case at all. They don’t really care how other’s view their aesthetics. They’re worried about the other person, specifically, being attracted to them. So, next time you’re hanging out with your crush, keep an eye out for quick hair fix, a lipstick retouch, a hidden shirt fix, or even a breath check. If you see these kinds of actions, they might have a think for you!

#4: Curiosity killed the cat but not your crush! They’re always asking questions!

Aaaand we’re back to our couple-who-doesn’t-know-they’re-a-couple-yet. Tim started realizing how much time he and Nina spend together. He wanted to make sure that they’re always having fun so that way Nina wouldn’t be bored when with him. So, he decided to try to work questions about her into their hangouts, texts, and conversations. Sometimes, it would be super lowkey like asking if she was going to see the new Marvel movie to gauge her reaction. Sometimes, he’d come right out and ask what her favorite food or hobby is. Either way, he made sure to get to know more about her, and in the process, she got to know more about him without even knowing it.

You already know who it is! As human beings, we like to talk about ourselves. When someone asks us a question about ourselves, a lot of the time we enjoy answering it and with great detail. Tim was super smart to use this tactic to get to know more about Nina. When someone is asking you about your likes/dislikes often and even acting on those things (i.e. you say you like Star Wars, so they buy you a Darth Maul action figure), this could be a really big sign they like you back.

#5: They create intimacy with personal gifts.

So, Tim and Nina are learning all of this great information about each other, and they’re getting closer and closer. Tim’s birthday is coming up, and Nina wants to do something special. She doesn’t want to take him out or anything, since that might be a bit too serious, but she doesn’t just want to buy him something. She knew he loved anime, so she drew him a picture of his favorite character personalized with his name. She even went the extra step to frame and wrap it up for him. It took her a few tries to get the drawing just right, but she knew she had a winner. When she gave it to Tim, he was SPEECHLESS! He couldn’t believe she had taken the time to do this for him. At that moment, he knew he had to ask her out.

It’s your favorite narrator! Aside from being super cute, this is a really great way to create a strong bond with someone. In 2015, Jo Turney conducted a study specifically on knitted items. When the item is something held close to the body, like a sweater or blanket, this item is seen as loving or kind. When the item is something not personally used, maybe a pot holder, it’s viewed as old-fashioned and thrifty. With Nina and Time, the personalized drawing showed that intimacy for her making that connection to the things he loves. He loved it so much that he knew he had to ask her out. Sounds like a deal sealed (with a kiss).

After hearing Tim and Nina’s story, wasn’t it kind of obvious they liked each other? When on the outside looking in, it can be a lot easier to catch these signs. When you’re in the middle of it and have emotions involved, catching these signs can be tricky. Hopefully, this cheat sheet will help you out the next time you’re with your crush. If you made it to the end of this video, throw a 🖤 in the comments below with any other signs you look for! As always, keep an eye on Psi for more Psych2Go content!

Have a wonderful day!

Want more signs that they might like you back… ya know, just to tripe check? Check out 8 Signs Your Crush Likes You Back (MAYBE)

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