What Role Did You Play In Your Family? [QUIZ]

Disclaimer: This quiz is just for fun, so please don’t take it too seriously or as professional advice.

Do you ever wonder what role you play in your family?

Take this quiz and find out!

Here’s how to do it: Answer the questions honestly. Tally the letters that appear the most, and by the end of the quiz you’ll find out your role.

Let’s start!


1) How would your parents describe you as a kid growing up?

a) Confident and friendly

b) Introverted and reserved

c) Level-headed and mature

d) Helpful and considerate

2) How do you deal with new people?

a) Like we’re already friends

b) Quiet and a tad anxious

c) Observant and critical

d) Warm and supportive

3) You have an argument with your partner, how does it go?

a) I’m willing to adjust to their needs

b) I worry that they might abandon me

c) I can quickly work through who’s at fault

d) I try to resolve it as quickly as possible together 

4) How are you like as a leader?

a) I’m organized and prepared

b) I take the last task available

c) I enjoy solving problems and exercising my analytical skills

d) I collaborate with others to get the job done

5) How would your friends describe you?

a) He/she’s a reliable friend.

b) They’re shy at first but fun once you get to know them.

c) They aren’t afraid of telling things as they are.

d) He/she’s the most supportive person I know.

6) How close are you with your family?

a) I feel that it’s my duty to keep them safe.

b) I feel like I walk on eggshells around them

c) I enjoy their company from time to time

d) I cherish them wholeheartedly

7) Your family pet passes away. What do you do first?

a) Cheer up my family, they might have it worst.

b) Cry, but not show it.

c) Find solutions to help your family move on.

d) Take it hard myself but find comfort in my family.

8) What would you say is your best quality?

a) I genuinely care about others

b) I’ll never be the one to start a fight

c) I see all sides of the coin

d) I like making people feel at ease


Once you’re done tallying your letters, find the one that appears the most. Here’s your role in the family.

If A Appears the Most, You’re A Nurturer

A nurturer is someone who is caring and empathetic. You find it your duty to love and care for others, and it’s something that comes naturally to you. 

You’re always willing to lend a helping hand to your parents, siblings and kids, even though you have a lot on your plate yourself. You do so out of a genuine love for them. On the inside, however, you feel that your value is tied to the amount of effort you put into a relationship, and it can be difficult to differentiate your worth outside of it.

If B Appears the Most, You’re A Lost Child

A lost child is reserved and would rather blend into the background. There’s a high likelihood that you grew up in a dysfunctional family environment. If there’s a family gathering, you’re often far from the center of the crowd. 

You see your free time alone as a double-edged sword; for one, you love solitude and the freedom from expectations. You also spend this time wisely, from honing and mastering a craft to completing a project. On the other hand, you sometimes feel lonely and wish you had it better.

If C Appears the Most, You’re A Truth Teller

A truth teller is someone who sees things through a critical eye. You like structure and logic, and many would say that you’re responsible and gifted. Whereas the nurturer constantly wants everyone to feel good about one another, you tend to observe your family members’ attitudes more objectively. 

You point out their mistakes (when necessary), but only because you want what’s best for them. On the inside, however, you’re often harshest on yourself, which may perpetuate a sense of inadequacy within you.

If D Appears the Most, You’re A Cheerleader

A cheerleader is someone who supports and encourages the family. They love to joke around and keep people happy. You adjust easily to the atmosphere you find yourself in — you work hard to lift up everyone’s spirits when they’re feeling down, or celebrate with them whenever something good happens. 

You are highly optimistic and can find positivity almost anywhere you go. On the outside, however, you place too much emphasis on what other people think. While this can be a source of confidence when everyone enjoys your presence, you may feel dejectedly worse when exposed to criticism.

Final Thoughts

Do you relate to the roles listed above? With all the different roles in the family, it can indeed be hard to figure out where you fit. 

But by knowing your strengths and weaknesses, you can gain more insights about yourself and find ways to improve your situation, wherever you are in life.

That’s all for now, Psych2Goers!


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