6 Ways on How to Get an Introvert to Fall in Love With You

Having a crush on an introvert isn’t easy, but it’s also the part that makes it wonderful. After all, the heart wants what it wants. Are you currently relating to this predicament? Do you have feelings for a certain introverted someone? 

Introverts tend to be more silent, pensive, and reserved than others. It is these qualities that make them daunting to approach. If you’ve fallen for one then you must know the challenge of reciprocation – you don’t want to rush and scare them off! Thankfully, this article talks about 6 ways on how to get an introvert to fall in love with you. 

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1. Find a mutual interest.

Do they watch anime? Is reading a hobby of theirs? Are they a huge Potterhead? What about you? Try examining your own hobbies and interests and see what aligns with theirs. Introverts are easily drained by social interactions, that’s why talking to them about topics they’re comfortable with is a good place to start. 

2. Communication is key.

Do you think that introverts act differently behind the screen and in person? According to Dr. Marti Olsen Laney, writing and speaking use different pathways in the brain. These writing pathways simply seem to flow more fluently and easily for introverts (Granneman, 2020). It is encouraged to find out what method of communication they like best. Do they prefer doing it face to face? E-mail? Texting? By doing so, they will be more comfortable and prepared for your conversations.

3. Be yourself.

Have you tried changing something about yourself because you like someone? What is it, and are you doing it now? In research from Cabello and Fernandez-Berrocal(2015), introverts are happier with high-quality social relationships. In order to form them, trust is a must. Don’t be afraid to express yourself. Introverts will see this as an act of you opening yourself up to them naturally. After determining your mutual interests, you can now engage in meaningful conversations without tension. Yay!

4. Respect their space.

What do you do when you’re alone to relax? Do you like to watch shows on Netflix? Listen to music? Do you value your me-time? If you do, then introverts certainly share the sentiment. They don’t just enjoy being alone; they require it. It is their way to recharge after a taxing day (Psych2Go, 2018). You might be excited at the thought of talking to them all the time, but you have to determine when to take a breather. They will appreciate your patience. In the meantime, you may focus on doing other activities that you like.

5. Make them feel heard.

Think back to the conversations you’ve had with them. Who was talking most of the time? Who was the speaker, and who was the listener? Do you feel like you’ve said too much? According to Michaela Chung, just because introverts are silent, doesn’t mean they have nothing to say. They don’t want to be rushed and need time to think before speaking. You may improve the quality of your conversations by asking more open-ended questions. Spark your curiosity and let them be a part of the topic. If you notice that they’re getting uncomfortable, then you may take a step back and go to a safer topic.

6. Trust the process.

Introverts take things slow. They try to develop a deep connection with the person they’re interested in dating. They aim to form an intellectual or emotional bond before creating a physical one (Riordan, 2017). Do you feel like your efforts are going nowhere? Are you starting to lose faith in your actions? It is in these times where you are encouraged not to give up. Take it slow and be patient. If they’re comfortable, open, and curious about you, then you’re likely headed in the right way. Good luck!

What did you think about this article? Are you ready to get an introvert to fall in love with you? Can you relate to any of these points? Please share your experiences down below. If you want to read more about this topic, you can check out: 8 Signs Your Crush is an Introvert, 6 Misunderstandings About Introverts (Your Introverted Friend Wants You To Know), and How To Tell If An Introvert Likes You (13 Adorable Signs). Thanks for reading!

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