A lot of our viewers on our Psych2Go YouTube have been requesting that we publish an article on Ambiversion. Well we finally delivered! It’s often very difficult to figure out what ambiverts are really feeling inside. If you haven’t heard about Ambiverts before, don’t worry, we’ve got you covered.
It turns out Ambiverts are very common. In fact, most people are ambiverted. People who are ambiverts consider themselves a mix of both introverted and extroverted traits. Sometimes, they prefer their own company and alone times while other times, they need to hang out with a lot of people. Sometimes, they enjoy solitary activities like reading books and other times out partying it up.
Some people say they are social introverts or extroverted introverts or introverted extroverts, but in truth, they are just degrees of the umbrella term ambiverts.
Research suggests that two thirds of the population are ambiverts, meaning you might know more about these types of people than you think. Whether ambiverts display introverted or extroverted behavior is sometimes due to their mood at that particular time. Think of these people as fluid, shifting personalities. Carl Jung, the psychologist who coined the terms “introvert” and “extrovert,” argued that there was also a third group – but he never gave this group a name. It was only much later, in the 1940’s, that the term “ambivert” started to be used.
Introverts typically loathe being in large groups, and find it mentally and emotionally draining. They “recharge” by spending time alone or with just one or two people. Extroverts love being in groups, and relish being the center of attention. They’re often uncomfortable when left alone.
If you’ve just read these brief definitions and you feel like you don’t quite fit in to either of these groups, don’t worry – you’re not alone. You’re probably an ambivert. This means, for example, that you might value alone time, but you also enjoy going to parties with lots of people.
On the other hand, maybe you’re not an ambivert, but you know someone who is. And maybe, just maybe, you have a crush on that special someone. So, how do you tell if they like you?
1. They Single You Out At Large Parties Or Gatherings
A great way to gain insight into the mind of an ambivert is by watching how they act at parties. It’s already been established that ambiverts enjoy parties, but they might not be trying to draw to much attention to themselves, as an extrovert would. On the other hand, they’re not going to act introverted and hide in a corner either. Their behavior is an interesting mix of both of these behaviors. You can really tell when an ambivert is interested in someone at a party because they’ll single them out. They might approach that person and have a one-on-one conversation that spirals into a long, tangential discourse. If you ever get caught up in one of these conversations, it can feel like the party and everyone around the person speaking to you just becomes a meaningless blur.
Why do Ambiverts do this? While they do enjoy hanging out with a bunch of people, they are most comfortable dealing with small groups, or just one other person. That’s why they try to isolate the people they might have a crush on at a large gathering. It’s to put themselves in a more comfortable situation so they can better enjoy that person’s company. It’s not that they were uncomfortable before they approached their crush – indeed, they might have been laughing and joking with the crowd before they set eyes on that special person. But when it comes to someone who they consider romantically important, they’ll probably prefer to interact alone, rather than in a group conversation where they have to share floor with numerous other people.