Sometimes, we’re afraid to let go because we forget that starting over is an option. New Year’s is just right around the corner and it’s culturally popular to get into the groove of creating resolutions, buy cute journals to keep track of our goals, and start a gym membership. But, starting over doesn’t have to be as glamorous or excessive as we often make it out to be. Sometimes, it can start from a simple state of mind. We want to remind you that it’s not too late to still go after the life you want. Psych2Go shares with you 7 ways you can start over:
1. Realize that starting over isn’t synonymous to redeeming from your failures.
This is a healthy mindset to adapt because it would be unproductive to beat yourself up over the mistakes and failures you’ve made. When you start over, you’re creating a new beginning for yourself. Don’t feel obligated to bring baggage from the past with you. That defeats the purpose of why you want to head into a new direction. Obsessing over your losses will only deter you from making progress.
2. Disconnect for a while and ask yourself what you really want.
When we’re constantly connected to a busy work and social life with coworkers, friends and family, it can make it difficult to figure out what is bothering us when we don’t feel fulfilled. Getting away for a while so you have time to see the bigger picture can do wonders. Unplug, turn off your electronic devices, and embrace nature. Finding a sense of peace within you can help you tap into your greatest needs and desires. The greatest awakening I had was when I hiked in the mountains of Hong Kong three years ago. I went through a complete transformation within just one month when I did some soul searching. It was the most intense period in my life because I took a lot of risks. I learned that starting over was not only okay, but essential for my wellbeing.
3. Recycle what has worked in the past.
You don’t necessarily have to discard everything in order to start over. For every bad experience, there is something valuable to take with you. Perhaps you failed your driver’s test or your job interview didn’t go as planned. You can use those experiences as learning lessons to make wiser decisions next time. Rather than just focusing on the disastrous end result, you can ask yourself, “What worked? What did I like? What would I never do again?” When you make time to reflect and take the good parts with you, they can help you start on the right foot again.
4. Switch from being reactive to being more proactive.
It’s so easy to dwell on things when you allow your reactions to get the best of you. Instead of being quick to criticize or sulk over troublesome situations, you can adapt a more resilient approach and focus on ways to clear your headspace of unproductive thoughts. Finding the calm within a storm is key and shifting your thinking towards proactivity will make a drastically beneficial impact on your life. Once you get into the habit of exercising healthier behavior, you’ll start to feel lighter.
5. Expect fear and setbacks, but don’t allow them to drive you.
It’s normal to be afraid or anxious when you’re about to start a new job, establish a new relationship, or move to a new place. But, it’s important to recognize that your fears and uncertainties aren’t an accurate depiction of the outcome that hasn’t happened yet. Rather than growing fearful of what may come next, embrace the unknown and think about how far you’ve come to take this brave, new leap.
6. Realize that the future isn’t determined by your past, but rather based on the actions you take now.
When you reach the end of something, it can be scary. But in retrospect, you may realize it was probably for the best. Perhaps you quit a job or experienced a relationship breakup. It’s okay to mourn over these losses, but when you’re ready to accept what happened and understand why those circumstances didn’t work out, pick yourself up and give something new a try. Just because something didn’t work out in the past, doesn’t mean it’s bound to happen again in the future. Part of starting over means being receptive to new opportunities you can take.
7. Get excited about something and give yourself a chance at real happiness.
Starting over doesn’t have to be as serious as hitting the gym to get fit or driving yourself to do better in your career. Sometimes, it can be about letting loose, whether that means going on more adventures or having fun. You have to be honest to yourself about what makes you happy and go after what is outside your comfort zone. Things are bound to get messy every once in a while, but in between all the heartbreaks, downfalls, and tragedies, there’s always a moment you can look back on and laugh.
Let’s all grab a blank slate and forge ahead! How do you want to start over? Psych2Go would love to hear your thoughts! Please be sure to leave a comment down below!
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